How to not be awkward. (introverts) //REQUESTED//

If you feel awkward in social settings, read this: 

You first have to divorce yourself from the idea that being social is hard. That's just an excuse for your lack of friends. But being an introvert is not the problem... Your communication skills are. And that you're not interesting enough is BULLSH!!T. You've never learned real communication, and that's not your fault.. Nobody was here to teach it... 

Well, good news for you all besties!

Your digital mom, Persephone, is here to help!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D

You can believe me, because I do theatre and scouts (yknow how that goes) and I was the outgoing crazy kid. But in person, I was REALLY shy. I always felt awkward in group settings, and I felt like I could never make DEEP social bonds with anybody. Lik, I actually just didn't feel close to people,le and I didn't know why.

I thought it was just me, or the way that I looked, or my voice.. But in hindsight, it wasn't because of my personality.

I just never learned how to be personable. And once I became aware of this, my whole perspective changed.

So for all my fellow introvertieeeesss: 

First 4 tips (communication):

• Put yourself in that person's shoes

Don't think "Omg it's so awkward", "Does my hair look good?", "My makeup must look so bad" and stuff like that, and I say this from the depths of my heart.. But it's NOT about you. Try to put yourself in their shoes and imagine how it must be for them.. They're feeling just how YOU feel. 

• Ask better questions.

The reason your small talk sucks is that you don't ask different questions.. Instead of asking,  "What do you do?" say, "What's been keeping you busy lately?" It will instantly make you loved by that person. Don't say things like: "How are you?" Say, "Has everything been working out for you lately?" not "What do you like?" but "What are you excited about right now?" Ppl LOVE it when you are GENUINELY interested. It also takes a lot of pressure off you because the other person talks. 

• Listen.

Just trust

• Make eye contact

(If for some reason you can't make eye contact because of your condition, just tell them.. It's nothing to be ashamed of!)  Don't stare into their soul, that's not what we want, okay, honey???

ANYWAYS THATS IT MOTHER PERSEPHONE OUT LATER MORE!!!!

(next up: The Ultimate Regina George Mindset; How to not care.)