🎀 💭 Unhindered Chronicles, Page. 2: The Weight of “Best Friend” 🎀 (Because words mean something, babe.)

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Call me emotional. Call me dramatic.

At this point, I’ve accepted that no matter what I say, someone’s not going to like it — and that’s perfectly fine. 💅🏽

But for my second entry in the Unhindered Chronicles, I want to talk about something that’s near and dear to my heart: being called someone’s best friend.

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A best friend isn’t just someone you grab lunch with or gossip on FaceTime with.

To me, that title means you’re my main person — my go-to, my confidante, my emergency contact if something happens.

You’re my peace and my chaos, depending on the day. 💜

Being called someone’s best friend is a badge of honor.

It’s not casual. It’s sacred.

When you give someone that title, you’re handing them a piece of your emotional security — saying, “I trust you with my real self.”

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Now here’s the part that stings…

So many people hand out that title like it’s a sticker — and then switch up weeks or months later.

It happens a lot, especially among women.

We love to talk about the “battle of the sexes,” and yes, men have their issues. But truthfully? Sometimes we as women can be just as messy, just as cruel, and sometimes more so — because our wounds run deep and our emotions are personal.

I can already hear it: “Not all women, Jag!”

And that’s fair. Like my favorite English teacher used to say —

“If it doesn’t apply, let it fly.” 🕊️

But if it does apply… then maybe it’s time to self-reflect.

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Not everyone takes the title best friend as seriously as I do — and that’s okay.

But if you’re going to call someone that, you need to understand what it really means.

To me, being best friends means family functions together, shared holidays, late-night calls, and honest talks when life gets ugly.

It doesn’t mean we have to talk every day — I know life gets busy — but it does mean being accountable.

If you can’t stand in that space with loyalty, honesty, and consistency, then don’t offer it.

Don’t call someone something that deep if you don’t truly mean it.

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I’ll admit — it’s human nature to avoid hard things. It’s easier to ghost, to ignore, to fade away.

But when it comes to someone I’ve called my best friend, I face it head-on — no matter how much it hurts, or how many tears it costs.

Because that title isn’t casual for me. It’s a commitment.

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✨ Reality check: Sometimes friendships end.

And that’s okay. Not every chapter is meant to last forever.

Everyone loves the aesthetic of having a big friend group, but when the dust settles, most of us only have one to three people who are truly there for us.

Ask yourself:

🖤 Would they still be around if I wasn’t who I am right now?

🖤 Are they situational friends?

🖤 Are they here for love, or for convenience?

Those are hard questions — but necessary ones.

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When I have a best friend, I give them a nickname.

I design a logo for them. I brand the bond, because I believe in sealing it with something symbolic.

That’s my love language — commitment through creativity. 💫

If you’re going through a storm and try to push me away, I’ll still be there.

Not because I have to, but because I want to.

That’s the difference between obligation and love.

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💋 Final Thoughts:

Best friend isn’t just a word.

It’s a promise.

If you can’t carry the weight of that title — don’t give it.

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