Love is dead?

Been debating making a blog about this as it's different from what I normally post, also rather negative in nature and I hate coming across as a doomer. I also don't like being too personal but I wanna know if anyone else feels this way. For reference, I've been single for about a year now maybe a little over that. I've had enough time to heal, process, understand, and get over everything that occurred. Before my last though I was single for many years, and had lost hope in finding my soulmate when I met someone who I could've swore was. It was an online relationship, long distance by about 6 hours but that never bothered us. Most of my previous relationships were online as I grew up in a small town and I definitely wasn't going to find someone interested me in a place like that.

Now that the preamble is kinda out of the way.. I'm back to the single life and honestly not sure how to feel about it. Part of me feels like there's gotta be someone out there who wants something a bit more lasting like I do but what are the odds I'm even going to meet her? And if I do, just because I like her or we want the same thing doesn't automatically mean she's going to like me. There's too many factors and variables that goes into something like this and I end up just not doing anything, and saying "well if it happens it happens and if it doesn't it doesn't" and leaving it at that. Guess I'm just waiting for someone interested in me to just walk up to me and say they're interested. Doubt it works like that for dudes but that's the advice I've been given for years.

Problem with that is that nobody really seems to understand what love is these days I've noticed. People my age think I'm crazy when I talk about this but a lot of relationships now I hear from other people seem so shallow. It's hard to explain but it's like this.. clout based feeling instead of an actual normal healthy relationship if that makes sense. I see women and men alike gushing over body types or money or material things. It's so strange to me because I've never thought that way, or at least I haven't since I've grown up. Hookup culture is also in full force still and while that works for some people and that's okay, it makes it hell for those of us that aren't interested in flings and want much more than that. I hate feeling like love is dead but nothing helps, I see a ton of people are getting divorced now and young married couples often don't last. I say this a lot but you look at the older generations and you hear these cute stories about how they married, some random place they ran into each other and now they've been married for 60 years. You never hear stories like that anymore it seems doesn't it? Plus I hear from all these older folks who are married, some just 10 or 20 years older than me saying they "wouldn't want to do it all over again in today's world" or that they feel bad for my generation. That also really doesn't help. I've been debating, if my heart isn't over torturing itself, maybe I should just date older or wait long enough for most people my age to grow up. I've always been told I look and act older than I am, and people in their late 20s seem very grounded and reasonable tbh. I'm just not sure, very confusing world these days. Anyone else feel like this or am I actually crazy? Maybe just some perception bias thing? I'd really hate for this to be a common occurrence everywhere

Sorry if the structure of this blog is strange, or if things are worded weirdly. It's very late rn and I gotta be up early in the morning for work lmao but I'm saying "fuck it we ball" and doing this anyway despite me putting it off. I don't write too many blogs so please go easy on me :P