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i crave connection so deeply and its unfortunate how many cool friends i have on here that i dont interact with. or interact with me
not that im blaming them, connection on here goes both ways esp when its this hard. living like its 2007 doesnt work if you arent on myspace for all your new friends, only keeping ur 6 closest relationships on your 2g text n call only brick.... keeping such a high tech computer on you at all times really lessens need or want for social platforms like this cause why would you REALLY rely on spacehey when you have insta/snap/messages right in ur back pocket?..... atleast thats how it is for me. im gonna get a slider phone soon, and itll be much better so im not dooming scrolling all the time, so I HAVE to get on my laptop for the internet. bring back home computers man
anyways its also a matter of me being autistic as hell so its impossible for me to start conversations. When I tried to fix my mental health, communication, and grow as a person, I lost my entire life on the internet, including an easy way to make friends through chatting sites/apps. conversation doesnt come easy to me over keyboard as it does IRL, so i cant be social and reach out cause Idk. its not the same. its easier on freakin roblox cause its so easy to find a similar interest friend cause UR PLAYING THE SAME GAME UBOTH LIKE and especially since I basically only play social games.... i get all my friends from RHS legacy and we branch off to other games from there cuz were already connected ukno?
theres not necessarily a tie between me and my friends even if I basically only friend people who like the same stuff as me. idk who u follow, what u repost and like on the internet. idk ur mannerisms and cant learn if i cant hold conversation on here!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and everyone is so intimidating idk why.
theres no automatic tie between me and other users on here. its why i collect friends (or try to), in hopes of getting so many I just get tons of interaction and connection on here. its easier if people reach out first lol
also it would help if I had notifications for spacehey but idk if thats a thing on desktop, and im still working on my phone addiction so im still using insta.......
i also wish the location thingy from myspace was on here too. its not the same world anymore, many people try to lure kids to meet up irl cause they "live in the same area" or other stuff like that so i cant be like "omg ur in north ga?? lets meet up" cause its just unsafe. i do post on insta, tiktok, and will post on youtube soon... im willing to prove that im myself if it comes to that just to have cool irl spacehey friends..... but idk it just wont really work. so im stuck with no connection on here
sorry ive just been blabbing out every thought going through my head atm
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Alavenderbush
I'm an older autistic and I can tell you that being a teenager is isolating by itself, but it gets better. Teens don't have the social reach of an adult and I think it is generally better not to meet with people from unmoderated sites (I am a little old school in this opinion).
I found that people get more accepting and real with time, and they appreciate that in others. A way of connecting with people is being open about yourself and truly caring about them. If anyone comes to a group wanting others to be interested in them, you'll find no friends, but if you come to the group trying to be invested in people (choose wisely and earnestly, not everyone deserves this), you'll always find someone. Also, don't pretend to care about others if you don't... We are autistics and it is glaringly obvious when we fake it
Im glad for the confirmation that it does get better lolol.
For me its sort of hard to simply start a connection with someone if im not sure of their vibe or if they would be cool with the stuff i like:’). I mean ive had some gut feeling power and every person ive met that I thought “yeah we could be friends”, we became good friends, and others that i felt werent a good choice, turned out to not be a good choice……so i guess it works out
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People really like to talk and be listened to. Asking questions is often good enough, and if they genuinely seem to care about you, that's probably your person.
Questions all the way
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