whys everyone trying to get into a relationship?? (rambling)

been a while since i've been on here LOL schools had me swamped </3 but i keep thinking about this so i wanted to talk at the void for a bit

anywho back to the topic at hand, it feels like most of everyone i talk to both online and irl seem to be trying their hardest to get into a relationship one way or another. i've had multiple of my buddies fall head over heels for people they've barely just met if it means being in a relationship. it's kind of worrying how there's been multiple instances of (and this is moreso irl) them rather putting up with genuinely shitty behavior than just idk breakup.

it's easy to rationalize others harmful behaviors, especially when they're close to you (i think we've all been guilty of that) but as hard as it may be people need to learn to set down their limits and respect themselves enough to not let others cross them ya know??? (easier said than done, i know) yeah, a lot of the time shitty actions come from shitty situations and of course be there, listen to your partner, help where you can (don't be an asshole) but there's some stuff they've got to sit down and work on themselves, and that's completely ok!!

i do get it. like yea getting to love and being loved back, getting to fully put your trust into someone. it's all really wonderful and sweet, but your world isn't supposed to fall apart if you get broken up with. i've seen people get so captivated with their relationships before that they end up losing whatever friends and support system they originally had. a person should WANT you not need you. i'd love to have a partner, but i don't and i probably won't not for a while, and i think i can say that's alright with me.

i do understand wanting to fill the void with somebody that proves you're loved, though. especially when you're a nervous wreck of a teenager surrounded by a bunch of other nervous wrecks LMAO. but honestly, no matter how hard you try a relationship isn't going to do that, if you're not comfortable with yourself, no one is going to fix that for you. only you have the power to do that. this all sounds cringe and stupid as shit, but do stuff for yourself try and find new hobbies, get to know yourself better. maybe with time you'll get to realize just how awesome you can be. practice self love n stuff, be kinder to yourself and hold yourself with some more respect cause you probably deserve it.

i dunno maybe it's cause i'm not a crazy romantic person, so i could just be spouting complete word vomit when it comes to this sort of thing xD sorry if any of this sounded a bit rude!! sometimes i'm a bit bad with words.