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pls help
i am open to suggestions
i am a very whimsical and generally energetic person but sometimes my friend group makes me feel drained. they are just as excited as me about things but sometimes i feel like i cannot keep up with them:(
Δ± really enjoy their company but i feel bad sometimes
i have been alone before in middle school and i dont want to leave the friendgroup
help?
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Evaki louloudaki
Communication is key ! Not everyone has the same levels of energy and that's okay! Have a conversation about it and they'll understand.
rigatoney
that probably just means you're a little more introverted than them. I am a similar way. Maybe next time you hang out suggest doing something less high-energy,, like baking something together or watching a movie or playing card games. Where you don't have to be super energetic the entire time.
Sometimes with extroverted friends you feel like you have an obligation to entertain them. But, they are your friend because they like like you for who you are. They want to hang out with you because they like you for who you are---even though maybe you are not as energized as they are.
When you're with your friends, you have to be kind of "constantly" thinking; of what to say, what to do, when to laugh, etc, so there's nothing wrong with feeling tired after talking to the same people for a long period of time, in fact, it is pretty usual. I think there are lots of people who feel like they can't keep up with their friends, maybe even one of your other friends feels like that too. Take time afterwards to do a chill or almost "mindless" activity like watching a show, reading, maybe listening to music. Really just something that you enjoy doing. Remember your friends like you and like hanging out with you, because they invite you to do stuff, or agree when you invite them, even though you don't have the same amount of "energy" as they do.
heyyy
thanks so much for your comment it really made me feel better
well the thing is we are a 4 person group and in school we sit in pairs and i kinda thougth that the girl sitting beside me was my bestie
like we get along better but these days she has been telling me off or saying that my jokes arent funny
sometimes she sits with other people and i feel left out
by blurbzoidxoxo; ; Report
Ahh that really sucks. In that case, I think you gotta focus on the other friends in your 4 friend group. She might just need some time because you spend each day beside each other in class. I hope that your friendship troubles will work out !
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thank you<3
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what about them is draining to you?
i think the way they act makes me feel cringe which is really wrong?!
but i act cringe and strange sometimes but i guess it isnt that much of a deal
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