"Teens shouldn't be wearing revealing clothes! Creeps are there!" BS.

Or maybe don't fking do the victim blaming? 

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●The argument that "teens shouldn't wear revealing clothes because there are creeps out there" might sound like a protective, common-sense warning on the surface. But when you really break it down, this line of thinking is deeply flawed, unfair, and actually makes the problem of harassment worse. Here’s why.:-

1. It Blames the Victim, Not the Perpetrator.

●This is the most important point.This advice puts the responsibility for preventing harassment on the potential victim, instead of on the person who would actually do the harassing.

❥The Logic of a Crime: Think of any other crime. If someone gets their wallet stolen, do we say, "Well, you shouldn't have been carrying a wallet in public"? If someone's house is broken into, do we say, "You should have had a better lock, it's kind of your fault"? No. We rightly blame the thief and the burglar. They made the choice to break the law.

❥Applying it Here: Sexual harassment is no different. It is a choice made by a "creep." By telling teens to change their clothes, we are saying that their clothing is what causes the harassment. This is wrong. The only thing that causes harassment is the harasser's decision to disrespect, objectify, and violate someone's boundaries.

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2. It Sends a Terrible Message to Young People.

●This kind of advice teaches all the wrong lessons.

❥To Teens (Especially Girls): It teaches them that their bodies are inherently problematic, distracting, and "tempting." It tells them that their freedom and self-expression are less important than managing the reactions of others. It makes them feel ashamed of their normal bodies and responsible for the bad behavior of adults. This can lead to anxiety, body image issues, and the feeling that they don't have a right to their own personal space.

❥To Potential Harassers (and Boys in General): It indirectly teaches them that their impulses are uncontrollable and that women are responsible for managing male desire. It reinforces the toxic idea that "if she didn't want the attention, she wouldn't have dressed like that," which is a way to excuse predatory behavior. It lets them off the hook.

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3. "Revealing Clothes" Aren't the Problem—Here's the Proof.

●If clothing was the real cause of harassment,then we would see a very clear pattern in the world. But we don't.

❥Harassment Happens in All Kinds of Clothes: Women and girls get harassed, catcalled, and assaulted while wearing school uniforms, hijabs, winter coats, hospital scrubs, and business suits. There is no "safe" outfit that magically prevents creeps from being creeps.

❥Look at Other Cultures and Times: In countries where women are fully covered by burqas, sexual harassment still exists. Throughout history, when ankles or collarbones were considered "revealing," men were still "tempted" by them. This proves that the problem isn't a specific piece of clothing; it's a mindset that says it's okay to objectify and violate someone without their consent.

❥The Real Issue is Power and Disrespect: Harassment is not about attraction or clothing; it's about power, control, and a lack of respect for another person's autonomy. A harasser isn't acting out of uncontrollable passion; they are acting out of a sense of entitlement to comment on, judge, and invade the space of someone they see as an object.

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4. What's the Better Solution?

●Instead of policing girls'closets, we should be addressing the root of the problem.

❥Teach Respect and Consent from a Young Age: We need to teach all kids, especially boys, about bodily autonomy, consent, and how to treat everyone with respect, regardless of what they are wearing. We need to teach them that no one ever "asks for" harassment.

❥Call Out the "Creeps" and the Culture That Excuses Them: We need to have zero tolerance for harassment. We should loudly call out this behavior when we see it and support the victims. We need to challenge the jokes, comments, and media that make harassment seem normal or funny.

❥Empower Teens: We should empower teens to express themselves and feel confident in their bodies. Our job is to teach them how to set boundaries and to assure them that if someone violates those boundaries, it is never their fault.

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✰In short, telling teens to dress less "revealingly" is a quick fix that solves nothing and causes more harm. It’s like trying to mop up a overflowing sink without turning off the tap. The tap is the culture of harassment and disrespect. Let's focus on turning off the tap, instead of blaming the mop for being wet.