Parental abuse SHOULDN'T be normalized.

♥︎The Core Problem: Kids as Property, Not People

●The heart of the issue is a dangerous and outdated belief: that children are the property of their parents. This mindset confuses the temporary and sacred role of a guardian—which is to protect, nurture, and guide a young person to independence—with the absolute power of an owner. When a child is seen as a possession, their feelings, boundaries, and bodily autonomy become irrelevant, and control is mistaken for love.

1. How Abuse Gets Called "Parenting" and "Discipline"

●This harmful behavior is woven into the fabric of society through several powerful forces:

❥The Cycle of Hurt: The most common reason is that hurt people hurt people. Parents who were raised with yelling, shaming, or physical punishment often have no other blueprint for parenting. They repeat what was done to them, believing it to be normal or even necessary.

❥Societal Excuses: Our communities often look the other way. Actions that would be called abuse if done to an adult are dismissed as "tough love" or "being strict" when done to a child. This silence gives permission for the behavior to continue.

❥Cultural and Religious Justifications: Certain traditions and interpretations of religious texts are used to justify harsh physical and emotional punishment. Phrases like "spare the rod, spoil the child" are used to frame abuse as a moral duty, making it very difficult to question.

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2. The Real-Life Damage It Causes:-

●The consequences of this normalized abuse are not temporary; they shape a person's entire life. The damage is deep and multifaceted:

❥A Shattered Sense of Self: A child's sense of worth and identity is formed in their early environment. When that environment is hostile and critical, they internalize the message that they are bad, unlovable, and that their boundaries do not matter. This erodes their self-esteem from the inside out.

❥Lasting Mental and Emotional Scars: This upbringing is a direct pathway to serious mental health challenges, including chronic anxiety, depression, and complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD). It also makes it very hard to form healthy, trusting relationships as an adult.

❥Passing on the Pain: The cycle doesn't end on its own. Without intervention, people who were abused are at a high risk of repeating the pattern with their own children. Alternatively, they may seek out abusive partners in adulthood because the dynamic of control and punishment feels familiar, even if it's painful.

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3. The Bottom Line: It Corrupts Families and Teaches the Wrong Lessons

●Allowing this to continue poisons the very idea of family. It transforms what should be a safe haven of unconditional love and support into a place of fear and obligation. The most dangerous lesson it teaches children is that power—not respect, kindness, or consent—is the foundation of relationships. It shows them that those who are stronger have the right to dominate those who are weaker. 

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✦Conclusion:-

❥Calling abuse "parenting" is a lie that protects abusers and silences victims. It is built on the flawed idea of ownership, fueled by societal excuses, and results in a legacy of deep psychological harm that echoes through generations. To challenge this normalization is not to attack families, but to defend the most vulnerable among us and to insist that every single person, regardless of age, deserves to be treated with dignity and to grow up in safety.