Hai! Jam here, I wanted to ig rant/talk about my goals? about getting more friends! Long Story, basically back in high school I did lowkey did make some "friend groups" especially being known as ig pretty cool around my school. Of course these friend groups did ruin my view on making friends in the future, including ruining my view on myself which im still working on today. Well, high school was like 2 years ago at this point, so basically I recently did cut out two friends who were honestly the last 2 that I would interact with IRL and even hangout with them. But to be fair, they were starting to get draining to maintain especially that they had habits that I would bring up but of course it was ignored. So I did drop them and now all I have is my Bf, his friends who welcome me into their friend group and that's basically it. Of course, I don't mind this cause they're truthful and honestly kind to me. But I want more female friends. You see my bf's friend group is ALL boys. Especially being a girl and tbh i don't mind playing into a guyish role in the group as well but I want female friends. I want to talk about girly things and do girly things and hangout with them and not feel like they're only using me for just their own usage. Of course, in Florida its extremely hard to make girl friends cause well I don't speak Spanish though I am Hispanic, and i don't dress fully girly or look extremely girly ig. But I do want girl friends. Ofc my bf's mom has introduced me to her friend's daughters or even her sister's daughter who are really cool but they live in different areas which is hard for me to even meet up with them cause I don't have a license, job, or car LOL. But since me and my bf are going to college, he did want to help me get friends since he knows I yearn for it. Though, I am a very awkward person cause my bf does suspect that I may have undiagnosed ASD which majority of the time I do "mask" but when people get to know me or we're friends for a while, Im usually more outgoing, silly and even not afraid to discuss my opinions or even advice. But besides that I start kind of like freezing up and usually do short talks and than go away unless the person is also doing something that im also interested in which makes me feel more open to talk to them.
In conclusion, I wanna learn how to make friends in college since I do struggle. Ofc my bf has helped me to become more confident in myself especially speaking up for myself. And if anyone here has some advice with making friends in IRL as a college or just 19-21 year old, please lend me your knowledge!!
well, jam out BAI!!
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Honestly, this might sound a lil dumb and maybe I'm more uneducated than others since I'm a bit younger, but the way I've learned to spark up conversations and create new connections is through food. Go to whatever gatherings, parties, clubs etc interest you, and bring some sort of sharing food. That way you have something to be a talking point, which has led to an insane amount of people I know keeping contact with me and hitting me up just to yap or hang
Ooo I see! I honestly love food so I'll see if I can try this out! Tysm :3
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