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But really, can we stop romanticizing this shit? I was stalked by a girl for months in my second year of university, and it fucking tortured me. It wasn't some attractive thing, where it's like "oh, she's just shy, she doesn't know how to talk to me," it messed with my mental health to the point where a counselor had to pull me in and ask if i was okay, because i had started socially withdrawing. I managed to get a no-contact order, which i am relieved about to this day, but seriously. Just because you think stalking and kidnapping are romantic, doesn't mean someone else does. You come off as a fucking pervert and a creep, which are not labels to be embraced. If you really do stalk someone in person, i guarantee there will be someone to break your nose for it. And kidnapping, that's obvious, you're going to prison for that shit.
And all for what, again? "Love?" Because it is "cute" to you?
Grow a spine. Real men and women don't do that shit to the people they love.
6.11.2025 edit: Holy shit, this blew up. I do admit that i wrote this in a moment of anger, because i had previously seen a blog post that talked about wanting to stalk another woman. Another blog was about wanting to kidnap a woman, by the same person, so i got frustrated. I think that regardless of gender, age, any factor, that stalking, cyberstalking, and kidnapping are bad. Doesn't matter if a man or a woman does it. It's disgusting. If someone only thinks about doing those things, i think that they should obviously get help instead of acting on thoughts. I would prefer for thoughts to stay thoughts and not become actions, but obviously i cannot control anyone but myself in a world with 8 billion or some people. Just be a good person.
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carmilla
since i'm seeing more and more people talk about it in this comment section, yes cyberstalking is JUST as serious as regular stalking !! during my high school years i was cyberstalked by a man from tunisia that was 4-5 years older than me and demanded i be his wife, threatening to kill me, my then-significant other, and trying to get CSAM out of me. it lasted as long as *two* of my relationships before i managed to block him out of my life completely. it made me act out, become angry, and even caused psychogenic pain from stress. this is not anything that needs to be romanticized, and i think more light should be shed on these situations rather than being written about in such an idealized or "romantic" manner !
Zigzag Buster 🇺🇦
Entertainment media has a problem with romanticizing stalkers. I hate it when romance novels portray stalking as something that someone would do when they’re in love.
doechan †
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Omg ppl romanticize ts???
darkXwolf17
I hate the people who say “oh how I wish I had a stalker” until it’s a 30 year old man who looks like he came out straight from a garbage disposal instead of the hot male cute uwu or whatever they think of it shouldn’t be normalised to like those things and don’t get it twisted with having a crush okay? It’s not the same thing back to the topic those people can’t realise that your stalker will probably kidnap you rape you and might even murder you or abuse you “but oh he is probably sweet and would never do that” if he would never do that then they wouldn’t follow you home and do crazy shit because people who stalk are completely out of their minds if they weren’t they would probably talk to their friends that they have a crush on you and not do something crazy gosh some people’s brains are the size of a peanut
Hope you are doing better now <3
by darkXwolf17; ; Report
WOE 祸患
i think it's cause the gay fucking yandere shit out there that portrays the girls as being shy as you said or like hopelessly awkward and stupid to the point they can't approach the guy they like
in real life it doesn't feel romantic at all and honestly feels like most of the time they're trying to fucking kill you or at least try to, the only people i've seen stalk people are violent BPD cases who either get stopped by some obstacle like a restraining order or just end up fulfilling some grudge.
🍑gr3at.s4ge🐮
tiktok recently started sweeping people spam accounts that were inactive when you switch between them, and ive literally seen people complain that they cant stalk people anymore. why were you doing that to begin with?? what do you gain from that??
for those of you who stalk people online: as someone who's dealt with being stalked online- you are a parasocial weirdo. you are a creep. that person probably has you blocked because they dont want to interact with you, and to find a way around that tells me you dont care much about boundaries. cyberstalking is a crime and i hoping you get charged.
Cyrus?
people who think stalking is romantic watch way too much movies and TV and need to go outside instead of staying in and watching stuff.
C@pt@!n_C@V!Ar
In my honest opinion I kinda blame dark romance books like this
As a reader I don't really like dark romance books. But obviously there's a community out there who do enjoy these books. but My problem with these dark romance books is that they rarely portray the themes respectfully or just full on romanticize them :(
Like I rarely see dark romance books where the female lead is the perpetrator. But anywyas I'm so srry that happened to you. :(
Gabbi
This hits deeper since I used to romanticise that crap when I was, what, twelve??? It’s insane what media we consume actually change the way we think. I’m so thankful I’ve gone past it after cutting some toxic influences in my life, especially since I’ve gone through two experiences where men came close to stalking territory. That stuff horrifies me till this day.
I can’t speak for those who do romanticise these for other reasons (coping mechanisms and the like), but ymmv. Some people react differently I guess?? But, definitely, thinking it’s acceptable in real life is very wrong.
Atrain
Can we also stop normalizing stalkholm syndrome like wtf guys
That's a kid, give them a break
by daviecantdance; ; Report
𝔱𝔯𝔞𝔰𝔥𝔶ᛪ༙
I personally haven’t been a victim of stalking and such, but the people that romanticize and try to normalize stalking and kidnapping really do NOT realize OR care about how much that damages the victims of that kind of abuse. It’s downright just insanely disrespectful and gross to the people who have went through those horrific things. And most of these people tend to be very traumatized and don’t even try to get help and care about themselves either.
And to those of you in the comments, and the blog poster, i am very sorry that you had to go through those things because of that person, i wouldn’t wish it on anyone.. I hope you guys can heal and grow 🖤🖤
by 𝔱𝔯𝔞𝔰𝔥𝔶ᛪ༙; ; Report
feral boy Jamara
As someone who has experienced being kidnapped I wholeheartedly agree with you that it’s not something to romanticise. (In my own case it was a legalised kidnapping to a TTI wilderness program arranged by my own father. Sadly,not all kidnappers end up in prison). Being awoken in the night and forcibly taken by two strangers is not remotely romantic. It’s terrifying and traumatic. I was literally in fear for my life. Anyone who sees that as romantic is either sick in the head or just plain stupid. OR BOTH SICK IN THE HEAD AND STUPID. Given you 2 kudos. I wish I could give more.
I am very sorry that you had to go through that. People need to realize that kidnapping can happen at any time, at any location, and it can be anyone. It was never a romantic act, and it never will be
by daviecantdance; ; Report
riceslapper
Keep in mind that most of these people that actively find stalking and kidnapping romantic, have a history of trauma. It's just like with any other "weird" kink.
But it's still wrong, don't misunderstand me. We need to educate and support these people before they harm others. That's why I advocate for better social services like therapy being funded by communities instead of government bodies (because it'll get neglected).
We can't just ask these people to stop doing bad things, because life is never that easy. We need to stop the cycle of abuse and trauma, which is the result from a capitalist system like this, and we need to prioritize social education in schools and at home.
true true X3
by XXコルプスプリンセスXX; ; Report
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by Erik; ; Report
Rocco
It may not be a popular opinion, but we really need a return to ‘charm schools.’ Young adults aren’t being taught proper social interaction. This effects more than just romantic relationships, but also basics like dealing with the public while working or how to set (or respect) personal boundaries.
Pie (waterboy's #1 glazer)
Fr, why do people romance this, are you trying to get laughs out of it you're literally making people paranoid and scared, like wtf did you get hit on the head as a child, people like this are not fucking funny, cute, or normal
I completely agree. Anyone who romanticises these things is a sad sick idiot who has no idea what the victims go through. I’ve experienced being kidnapped. (In my own case it was a legalised kidnapping to a TTI wilderness program). I was terrified and literally thought I was going to die. I’m still seeing a child psychologist because of the trauma of it. And some idiots see that as romantic.
by feral boy Jamara; ; Report
carmilla
i hate to say it but how the fuck does spacehey have its own lolcows. what the fuck is happening on this website to where the bare minimum has to be said repeatedly
it's kids who are too used to their parents not finding out about what they do on da internetz
by doechan †; ; Report
doechan †
koffiecake would be very offended rn if she could read
It's a genuine shame that there are names we can pin to these blogs and say, "yeah, this person has a problem with being perverted and weird"
by daviecantdance; ; Report
We’re all just trying to find our way. Some are more off track than others.
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