my rages about today's romance scene

To whoever this reaches,

There's something that's been running laps in my mind for a while now. My family has always told me that back in their day, courting was romantic, taking a time period from weeks to even years, because the one who wanted the other was patient and genuinely loved them. But as society evolves, so does culture: with the rise of online dating, social media, technology, and globalisation, forming relationships and destroying them just becomes easier.

In the past, the greatest thing a man could do to court a woman was to serenade her outside of her window. Nowadays, the bare minimum that men could do is what impresses women so easily. I've seen hundreds of TikTok videos and Instagram reels where women would rant about how their boyfriends held the door open for her, told them they looked good, and holding their things were the ultimate romantic experience. A man who does these things has "infinite rizz", as I've seen from a TikTok in 2023. Online dating makes the decline so much steeper --- I fell for online dating propaganda in the past. One confession, and suddenly, you're practically husband and wife to the rest of your online friends.
Online dating makes the decline so much steeper --- I fell for online dating propaganda in the past. One confession, and suddenly, you're practically husband and wife to the rest of your online friends. Situationships are just a degraded form of courtships, when you're halfway dating and halfway not. Nowadays, courting just takes place in a private message or through chatrooms, and how can you see the effort when typing on a screen or on a keyboard is effortless?

There is a saying on the Chinese internet that says, "A top-tier man is just an average woman." As I've mentioned earlier, giving basic affirmations and holding doors open are just the bare minimum --- so minimum that even women do it on the daily. In the past, the most romantic thing was to go out of his way to serenade her outside her house --- the standards have lowered.

It's so much easier to say, "I love you" through chat rather than in person. Through chat, you just have to type it out, but you have to mean it in person. Suddenly, everything just looks more insincere, synthetic, and artificial. Still, I do give my best wishes and congratulations to those who make it work.

The modern dating scene doesn't have to be the same as the past's, because there have been many improvements in society since then. What I'm trying to say is, where have we gone? How did we get to this point, and why?

Signing off,

Vikaell