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Sorry gang, this is more personal than my unusual content but I just really need to vent about my mother-in-law. I've just been holding everything in and it's so irritating and eating me alive.
My MIL just absolutely despises me because I'm with her son. In the past she's always blamed me for her son's "rebellious behaviour", called me a gold digger (I come from mass amounts of generational wealth), says I'm not independent enough, that I can buy my own gifts, and overall just says that I'm not good enough for her son.
Recently, she's also said some pretty ignorant statements about Asian people. (I'm White and East Asian). She said that sushi is unhealthy because you HAVE to eat it with rice and dip it in soy sauce. Side note, you literally DO NOT need to eat sushi with soy sauce and there's sushi that COMES WITHOUT RICE!! Anyway -- she kept saying that sushi and Asian people were unhealthy.
She then made some extremely racist comments about Indian people and Muslims being dirty, uneducated and gross. She also makes comments about Indian people in migrating here, and saying they're disgusting and should go back to their country.
When I kept my distance from her, she would get upset and ask why I'm not talking to her. Which is like "??????" are you joking??? Previously, she's harassed her son multiple times when we were on dates. I also accidentally fell asleep at her house, and she yelled at me to get out at like 2am.
She's also been harassing her son and me to give back a sweater I took from my bf. When I ignored her, she got upset, and told her son that I was banned from the house. She's also guilt-tripped my bf multiple times, by saying how I'm ruining their relationship.
She then says to me that I can talk to her about anything and that it's okay if I do. She says that she appreciates honesty, but I don't think that's true?? Anyway, she's just so nasty. If anyone could pay some Etsy witches to curse her on my behalf I would love you forever!! <3
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Myobsessivelife
The best advice I can give you is explaining the situation to your boyfriend if you haven't already...
Focus on you and remember this isn't your fault for the way she's acting <3 Some people are just nasty, don't let it get in the way of ruining your relationship. It sounds like she's really playing the fence with the love-hate thing. Maybe you could even sit down and talk to her and make your point of view clear and try to assess her opinions on things since she seems to be on and off. The racist thing is definitely bigotry. Just point blank period.
(Also generational wealth? badass.)
dejojfnd -- ty so much for the advice. I've talked to my bf about it but I might have to sit down and talk to my MIL as well... i just don't want to because she's soooo insanely difficult and stubborn. I really have to go and think about what I say in a calculated way
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Sara
I am just a 14 year old kid so i dont really know what to do but mannn this women sounds like a pain in the ass im so sorry for you. Has your bf said anything about it maybe he can talk to her. I think you guys should both like stop contacting her in the future (idk if this is how u say it) But yeah i hope it won‘t get worse
omg, im so glad someone else acknowledges how she sucks!! Tbh, I think ur right about cutting contact completely with her. I've been wanting my bf to go no contact for a while, or at least if he moves out, he limits contact but doesn't cut her off completely. I can't really make that call for him tho, which is a bit frustrating bc shes a really toxic person but its also his mom. Y'know?
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