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The last time i felt this bad about my body was probably 2020 because of the locked down. I used to spend a lot of time scrolling and worrying about having the perfect body you know skinny, flat stomach, small waist, hourglass figure and shit, cause back then every girl in my fyp was like that and I just wished I was like that too but then I looked in the mirror and I felt so sad. My body looked like a rectangle and I wasn't even that skinny so I had rolls, arm fat and my skin wasn't firm. Besides I'm taller than usual here and I always felt so big when hanging around with other girls so it didnt help. Back then I was in highschool and in 2020 I was 17-18.
I'm 23 now, and I think it's easier to find diferent body types and I think they're all beautiful, I love seeing women comfortable in their bodies and showing it like it really is. But somehow this week I felt really ugly, maybe because of the spring (it's getting hot so I can't wear a lot of clothes) but a simple tank top suddenly felt so tight and revealing it made me feel so bad, like everyone was going to judge me because of being this big and full of rolls that I know that they arent even that big of a deal and my breast it's not even that big but it makes me feel fatter and my hips arent that big either, so i felt desproporcional but I didnt wanted to sweat either so I got frustrated and ended up wearing a big shirt and jeans. And even if it made me feel boring it was better that feeling seen.
I even tried going out shopping cause maybe i thought it was the clothes not me, but it didnt help since nothing that I liked really suited me (I have to try again tho).
And I always had this thing about wanting perfection in everything, that it kinda helps when I have to do homework or smth. But then I feel like I autosabotaged so many things because of that like my relationships (always asking too much) or keeping myself out from trying something new j(ust because I won't be that good instantly). And since I have this specific idea of a perfect body, I can't achieve it, either because of genetics or my lifestyle, and thats the problem. I don't need to be perfect, but I can't seem to find my way out of this need.
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Mark Feliks
You can try wearing a baseball shirt over your top, I live in hot weather and it has worked so well for me, the wove pattern is loose enough to let air in and the fabric doesn't hold odor as much.
Also as someone who was in the fitness industry, social media has made people out of touch from what an average physique looks like. Especially for women who needs to hold a little more fat than men. Males tend to be able to stay at lower bodyfat percentage but we feel like shit all the time at that point 10-12% bdf, worse at <10%. Having a all-year perfect physique is somewhat not sustainable unless you're a freak of nature. It's fortunate that we are healthy and health comes first.