Going to bitch a bit about a pet peeve

Something I find to be increasingly more annoying with socializing on the internet... 

Having a conversation about a shared interest in a media. Right? And I, in an act of trying to share and swap, send a link to something... and get hit with the "not playing that". 

The first time it genuinely pissed me off was when a "friend" wouldn't watch a 28 second video that gave context to a post we were discussing. I was like "really? you don't got half a minute for me? but you call me friend?" 

That interaction made me begin really noticing how many people react to me sharing a link or media with "I loudly object to taking the time to watch that" ... It's just ... not a nice way to make friends? Do you see where I'm going? 

Break Down

The main reason I am so annoyed by it is because, imagine, out in the real world you're trying to make friends with someone or having a discussion with a friend... and you say "look at this thing" and they go "oh no. i won't look" right to you? Absolutely not. But because it is the internet and not in your face... people feel so comfortable just telling you "i will not be looking at that for you" and I just don't fucking like that...

This leads into the other half...

The wild part is that they don't even usually HAVE to go through with seeing the thing. My first example, yeah, it was meant to be watched right away. As if I had brought up my phone in a face-to-face convo and said "oh yeah, it's this" to give context to the topic. Wouldn't that be super normal? 

However usually... I'm not even sending a link for you to watch right away. I love to watch youtube and people love to tell me that they love to watch youtube. When I learn an overlapping interest with the other person I like to send vids that I think they'll like. And, 9 times out of 10... if they never actually watch it I don't know and don't really think about it. But if they do and we get to gab about it then that's... isn't that the fucking point of friendship? I am not even holding their hands to the flame and that's why it's so irritating to me when they tell me directly they don't want to watch it. I'm trying to connect with you, didn't you want that? Why'd you fucking talk to me about youtube then? It's just. This would read implicitly rude in person and I am apparently supposed to just take it because we're chatting on tumblr instead. 

I find it demoralizing to any connection and it usually just makes me shut down and snip whatever personalization was developing. It locks repeat offenders into acquaintance territory for life. I don't wanna be friends with you if you don't wanna see a recommendation from me but I would have watched yours. 

Socializing in the digital sphere feels so bereft of genuine socializing.