Safe Space

September 21, 2025

Last Monday, my therapist gave me a prompt for me to answer next session. This is what I remember.

Think about a safe space. It can be real or fictional. Describe who or what will be there and what it smells like. Does the smell remind you of anything? ect.

My first thought was to give a really generic answer of showing photos that describe what a safe space is to me since I don't have any words that match my thoughts feeling ect. These would have been the photos I would have shown

But the more I actually thought about the prompt, the more I didn't wanna half ass my answer for the and actually have it well thought out so that we can discuss about during the session. 

So my answer to the prompt is that my partner is my safe space. Even though it's long distance. They are my safe space.

We initially met (on a random vc in a public discord server) and became friends. That was back in May of this year. And surprisingly during the first vc we had an instant click. And sometime within that call I invited them to my server. Which we would naturally call in everyday after that. 

The reason why I consider my partner to be my safe space is because when we were just friends, they ended up become the person I trusted. The person I would always go to after every problem. And helped me work things out when things weren't going right in my life. Working things out as in help me understand why things happen and how I was gonna go on from there. Basically someone who helped me become who I am in this moment of time. Someone who helped me grow and improve on myself. Someone who reciprocated and gave back. Since I'd always do more than what people can give. And they are the reason why I'd consider them my safe space. Meaning that I have a safe space to be myself even though that was I naturally do to begin with, I have someone who appreciated that I am able to be myself. 

They once told me that me being myself is the reason why they fell for me fast. And how I am genuinely just a good person who cared about her friends and family. Even to the point where I end up getting hurt by it. That resonates with them on a fundamental level. 

I've experienced more good then bad when it comes to relationships and friendships. I think it's just the fact that me being genuinely nice, always forgiving and never mad gets taken advantage of. I've also notice how easily I get taken advantage of because of my genuineness. That sometimes I can overlook on the red flags on someone because of how nice and forgiving I am. I've gotten better on being able to notice these red flags specifically in relationships that it became a habit that I break up with people to quickly that even though I saved myself future self from getting hurt, the me in the present is hurt because I either hurt the other person or I felt like I didn't have enough time to be with that person. But when there's red flags in friend ships I always tend to just let things play out because I know that I will never get to experience the good with other people/friends since I'm so used to always being on my own.