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Bullying is incredibly normalized, and it SHOULDNT be, thats a fact.
But the outer question of it is why cant, why DONT those people get help, they are so deep in a dark void that they decide to make others join in on that HORRIBLE despair and pain with them??? Why dont they get help??? It feels like there's no escape for them, thats why. But there are many other reasons, it is hardly accessible to get help these days.
So my question for you people going through a rough time and as a way to fill the void, or escape it in some sort of way, make fun of others, harass them, bully them, how can WE as a society help you? How can we help you? Please let me know in the comment boards cause ive damn near has it with these people. What we need is to grow as a society. Although, the only thing we are doing is downgrading. Let's try to make atleast a small impact on others and fix that. Thank you.
I will never forget the feeling of 13 year old me lying on the floor, crying my poor heart out because of these kids at school, wondering what I did to make them so upset with me that they felt the need to make fun of my haircut that I loved so much, make fun of ny style, my glasses, the way i talked, everything about me in general. I will never understand why someone would do such a cruel thing to someone because it is a miracle I am still alive to this day. I was the one assuring myself and getting myself through these things, and because of that, I am strong. But I should he strong because of something ELSE. Not being bullied constantly my entire life to the point I wanted to BE somebody else completely, I didnt want to be myself anymore, I thought I was a burden and shouldn't exist, that I was a mistake. Because of all this bullying garbage that has happened to me throughout my life, I am forever scarred and am scared, because HOW, just HOW am I supposed to bring a child into this world when I had to go through all of that, and I fear that they will most likely have to go through it aswell, we should make it easier to get help for these things, for bullies, AND the people being bullied. So many people have lost their lives to bullying and harassment and that absolutely NEEDS to change.
I apologize for the unorganized and messy wording, I can cover any topic in this writing that anyone needs me to because I didnt put alot of detail for some topics I feel like. Have a nice day everyone.
I truly hope and believe that we can advance as a society and stop this. Bullying shouldn't be a common thing AT ALL.
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Dart Highwind
It's a learned behavior.
Humans are generally born with innate empathy, but can be raised to eschew it in favor of tribalism.
We see it all too often in many parts of society (at least in the US) where there are swaths of people who ignorantly bully people under false pretenses or for just being icky (ie different to them)
Such people are emotionally fragile and could stand to make real friends who bring them up while addressing problematic behavior.
Bullies tend to also be fighting a lot of invisible battles like the rest of us.
It isn't your responsibility, but if you can befriend a bully, you could not only help the world around the bullied, but help the bully turn over a new leaf, which can cause a chain reaction of goodness a la butterfly effect.
Thank you for this, You perfectly answered my question.
by ☆•°Fae; ; Report
I agree with you but if their getting beat up yk you cant help them. And if you want to help someone they have to want it themselves. You can lead a horse but cant make them drink it.
by hazhbrown; ; Report
I've broken bones protecting people from being beat up.
I'll do it again, too.
And it's true that not all people want to be helped, but you don't know until you try.
And remember, you're trying to make a friend out of them. Softening of rough character traits takes a long time, but it is possible.
by Dart Highwind; ; Report
Agreed at least try! You deserve a warm fresh baked brownie or banana bread ✿♡
by hazhbrown; ; Report
JoanFatima
It's very sad, many people believe that it builds character, but nothing like that, what it is, is years of therapy and trauma.
even fear of socializing, distrust, fears, social anxiety...
Exactly. I was embarrassed over every little thing I did. If I did anything "embarrassing" I would punish myself for it for the rest of the school year, that would ruin school for me. A place for EDUCATION. Thats not me overexaggerating, thats the sad result of what bullying can do to a person.
by ☆•°Fae; ; Report
Yes, I understand. I finished school many years ago. Sometimes it hurts to remember, but the best thing for you now is to focus on what makes you happy, what you like, and only on your projects. Those outside are just wood. 🫢
by JoanFatima; ; Report
⏔𖹭 ꒰ Cherie ꒱ 𖹭⏔
I really hate that. I haven't experienced it much but my friends do. The problem that makes bullying more normalized is the lack of attention it receives, a teacher saw how a friend of mine was being bullied. I feel like if they don't even care about it, so there's not much I can do.
My friend has been able to "forget and forgive" those who bullied her and live with them normally, but I am a grudge-bearer and even though they didn't do anything to me, I still harbor a lot of hatred towards them.
And thats totally okay, all we can do is try to do better every day,
by ☆•°Fae; ; Report