My hot takes about friendships/relationships

** Friendships

Personally, I’m in full belief that friendships, regardless of how close you are, do not have to be a “I tell you every little thing about myself” and it certainly is not a “I tell you all my other friend’s secrets” sort of thing. Like.. no? I respect my other friend’s boundaries as much as I respect my best friend’s boundaries. It doesn’t matter how many times you ask, I don’t tell secrets unless someone is in immediate, irreversible danger or posing a threat to others. Loyalty doesn’t bend because I love someone - if someone says to me SPECIFICALLY not to tell anyone else, I don’t. I don’t care if I hate them, I don’t care if I love them to bits and pieces, I don’t care if its just a peer. Your secrets are safe with me. 

This is similar, but a bit different too: I also believe that friendship doesn’t mean having to have conversations include everyone. Sometimes, you just wanna tell one specific person, especially if it’s extremely personal business. There’s no reason why you shouldn’t be able to talk to someone without having to be begged and interrogated to be let into a conversation. 

friends who get jealous when you talk to other people without them/hang out without them. Like dude. What if I wanna hang with someone one on one. I dont love you any less?? I just wanted to hang out with this person personally?? Jealousy pisses me off sometimes. (And before keyboard warriors come after me, I’ve had jealousy issues in the past, not with this issue in particular but I have been jealous over appearance and superficial things before so trust me I see where you might argue, but nonetheless, please take care of yourself and try to improve, jealousy doesnt just hurt you, but also the people around you). 

Additionally, I personally dislike phone stealing. Like get your grimey mits off my phone. I don’t want 2000 identical photos of your forehead on my goddamn phone. 💔 (Sorry, had to slip in this very small pet peeve of mine).

**Relationships

I. HATE. THE. CRAZY. BITCH. DYNAMIC. SO. MUCH. Like stop losing your cool at your poor, innocent boyfriend/girlfriend because she/he exists and wants basic freedom and privacy.  Everyone treats this as a quirk but this is lowkey normalized controlling behavior. You’re not a bad-bitch girlboss/boyboss for telling your boyfriend/girlfriend what to do. You’re just a douche on a power trip.

The “let me see your phone” “no” “YOU’RE A CHEATER” thing. Like.. guys.. while it is suspicious in some cases, wanting privacy does not automatically make someone a cheater. Like what if I just have private vents on my notes app or something?? ☠️ You seriously gotta have more backbone than that. Plus, relationships are built on trust (until proven otherwise), not regulation. 

Then the dreaded, “situationship” like please quit with this word. I get not having commitment skills, but like.. does no one realize that people are just dating for the experience?? Like, I’m just tryna find a forever love to stick to for the rest of my days, and I see people fly through dating like its some olympic sport.. like, no hate but GIVE IT FOUR WEEKS AT THE VERY LEAST?? 2 weeks is insane work. And the “oh yeah we’re talking but we’re not” when were there layers to romance?? If you like someone, you like someone! Be your authentic self, you don’t need to split it all up into bits and pieces.

“Saying ‘I love you’ on the first date is gross!!11!1” please genuinely shut the fuck up 💗 please and thank you. If they don’t actually mean it, then they don’t love you, but ending a relationship just because someone said ‘I love you’ on the first date is insane. What if they just genuinely feel nothing but pure euphoria around you, and they want to express their feelings and hope for a forever-devotion for you? That’s the most romantic (or platonic), soul-touching three words ANYONE can say to you?? And you’re saying that’s gross? Yk what is gross? YOUR PICKINESS.

And oh my god.. the people who don’t let their lovers hang out with their friends. That pisses me off. You’re not the only one in their world luv. They got other people to care for. They dont disappear just because your lover loves YOU.

anyway, thats just my opinions

Dolly OUT !! Xoxo !!