parent-child relationship

My whole life I thought it was normal for parents to yell at each other in front of their kids. I used to think it was normal for a parent to degrade any project or feature of mine. I used to think it was normal for a parent to get angry or abusive if I laughed too loud, shed a tear, or show any other emotion other than content. I couldn't be too happy, too angry, or too sad. It wasn't allowed. And if I was, I would get sent to my room with no dinner, yelled at, lectured, or even sometimes hit. As I grew older and talked to friends, I realized this wasn't normal. My friend's parents rarely fought, got angry, or hit their kids. I was shocked, but mostly jealous. I was mostly hurt to see art work on the fridge or framed on a counter. My parents never did that. They would throw it away or they would point out every mistake and tuck it away in a drawer. They were never proud of me, and the first time I was told, "I am proud of you," was from my art teacher and I cried in front of him. My parents thought me to be angry and moody all the time, so when my boss looked me in the face and told me how energetic and radiant I was, it felt like a dagger in the chest. All I wanted was for those moments to be from my parents. I can't say we never had good moments. We had a lot. We traveled to France and Italy. We've gone to Disney 4 times. They take my siblings and I to festivals and fairs. We have a lot of good moments. It's just the bad ones are now getting more common, to the point it's everyday and I can't escape it. I'm very grateful I have people in my life I can talk to about this, but at the end of the day I come back home to the same situations every time I talk to my parents. I turn 18 this month and by 20 I want to move out and get away from my parents. I just don't want to leave my sisters alone. My mom is a control freak. When she feels herself losing control, she starts to find something else to control, but worse. A good example is when my friend was looking for a job and my boss was talking about needing more employees, I offered up my friend. She really needed the money and I talked about it with my mom and she disagreed and told me, "over my dead body is she working with you." Later I found out she forced my sister, who also works there but she was quitting soon, to call my boss and tell him that she's mentally ill and can't work. My friend lost her brother a few years ago and goes to therapy, so my mom takes that as mentally ill, but I see it as bettering herself. And by the way, she's a completely normal 17 year old girl and has really matured due to her therapist. She did end up getting the job after I called my boss and let him know that my mom lied. When my mom found out, I planned on keeping it a secret, she knew she lost control and started restricting me from hanging out with her. There are so many situations that are worse than this one and if anyone reading this wants me to share, let me know and I can trauma dump. I also want to reach an audience that can relate, as sad as it is, but I want to reach the hearts of people just like me.