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I’ve noticed recently that I have a bit of a pattern with my crushes. Specifically, I tend to start off wanting to be their friend, then about a year later it develops into more of a crush. The real point I wanna chat about here is just do you guys have long lasting crushes?
I had one girl that I like for around 7-10 months, but honestly that crush barely existed toward the last three months because I started losing hope and noticing more flaws in our dynamic. That part specifically is what makes the idea of getting into a relationship so scary to me. What if I date someone and realize a year into our relationship that we aren’t good for each other? And more importantly what if that becomes a pattern? Could I just be too picky and I just judge people too harshly when looking at them romantically? Or is it more of a concern that I start losing interest after realizing there’s little to no chance of us getting together?
The only other example of a “crush” I have was one that started around March last year. It was a platonic crush at first but over time I realized it could be more than platonic. The thing is around a month ago she told me about her feeling for another girl (who ironically was one of my first sorta crushes) and suddenly I just… wasn’t interested anymore? Like are my feelings shallow for saying that? I like her, don’t get me wrong, but I can’t help but feel like I got a moment to take off the rose colored glasses and I’m just happier with friendship. AGAIN.
Like I don’t know if it’s a me thing, but I get so totally bugged out by like not having any romantic interests. I don’t feel the need to have one allll the time, I’m not insane! Just like, it’s kinda annoying to be almost out of school and NEVER having a proper talking stage or a partner or anything. Not that my friends make me feel left out, I love them they are all super sweet. But still like I think I might be the only person who can be both completely not interested in mingling and a horrible hopeless romantic.
Anyway yea use this blog to respond or rant about your experiences with crushes and queerness in the comments! I’m curious…
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ItzR4v3n
*laughs in having a crush for over two years*
Okay but real talk, it's hard to pinpoint because everyone is a bit different. I had a crush on some boy in elementary school, but when he told me he knew, it just went away.
The fact your feelings went away for a girl after she said she had a crush on someone, shows you respect her feelings and I believe that's a really positive thing.
And I guess it also depends on luck? I thought I'd be single up until college or even after it, but yet I somehow pulled my current crush. Don't ask how, I don't know either.
Awwww so happy for yall! And yea I think respect is a big part of it like I hate crushing on ppl once I know for sure they aren’t into me. Like the more recent crush has plainly stated she didn’t like me like that (I didn’t confess or anything this dude we both hate just shipped us in a weird way long story) but after she said that stuff it’s been like a steady decline and her having feelings for a different person kinda cemented that kinda loss of a crush for me. (Not to mention I quite like the pair of them so I’m kinda rooting for her
) . But I still think about her like that sometimes just not enough to feel like a crush anymore sm as like “oh she’s still cute but not for me fr” and that’s it lol. I’m kinda back in my I love not having crushes era lmao. I do think it’ll all come together at the right moment so I’m not too worried and I have sm shit to do om the priority list before a relationship. Thanks for commenting!
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Omg sorry for writing like a whole mini blog in ur replies
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Dandy Leon (彈帝獅)
Pfft, I've still never gotten over a girl I fell in love with more than ten years ago. I have absolutely no illusions about hooking up with her though.
That’s real asl too ngl
like im never 100% over liking smb but i know damn well we wouldn’t work out after a while lol
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