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I see comments on vent channels. People saying that even if they don't know the person, they love them. I love you even at your worst. I love you even when you're sad. I love you even when you're angry. Do you really mean that? Have you ever seen what they're like when you describe their emotions ? However, it always seems to be the opposite. If people see how bad a person is, they resort to hatred or a middle ground.
How can you love a stranger? more importantly, is it possible to love someone you don't even know?
From what I've been taught, to love someone, is to love who they are regardless for their flaws. Love is graceful and patient. So this means in order for you to love someone, you need to accept someone. To accept someone, you need to know someone. \
All you've known about this person are their problems, which I'm sure doesn't always define who they are. Their perceptions on how they view the world may not appear as innocent as they present it to be, or maybe they're not the victim as they present themselves as. Can you truly know someone if all you know about them is their misery? Never their interests. Never their desires. Never their humor. Never their friends. Never their morals. There has to be a difference between sugar coating words or actions out of pity and genuine kindness.
So I genuinely cannot believe that people are truthful when they say they love someone. Maybe they're mistaking it for pity. Seeing someone so pathetic(sorry not trying to degrade but) that they feel obliged to please them. I don't think love comes directly from obligation. Isn't it supposed to be genuine?
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SmogHotdog
People that cling 2 each other during times of loneliness or misery are often blind-sighted by the desire 2 not be alone.
Oftentimes, they aren't experiencing love, but rather comfort 4 the 1st time in a while from some1 they can relate 2.
yeah that's also another sad reason and it'd be probably devastating for them to realize they dont genuinely love the person
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l0rdnik0n
it depends on your definition of love. we get in our own heads, creating an idealized version of the person and that's usually what the love is based on. a fictional version of someone who we saw could potentially suit our needs. and how do you tell the difference between what version of them you know once you're deep in the fantasy? then we wonder why it usually doesnt work out. it was the picture we created that we loved, the missing gaps filled in based on our desires
exactly. in "nonviolent communication" by marshal b, it tells us that when analyzing or observing someone, you are not supposed to judge or label someone based on your set of morals. things like character analysis are supposed to be factual and non biased.
if the needy is not given the attention they want, they are "cold and insensitive". if a person is being asked for more attention then they already give, they view the other as "clingy and annoying"
when it comes to analyzing others, i usually like to just label their actions, what they prefer/choose to do, and their behaviors without using moral labors to dictate the good and bad of their behavior. i add a factual analysis before adding my opinions about the person later on
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