My advice about romantic relationships.

 When people ask my advice regarding relationships these are the few things I say.

1. Don't seek and expect.

I noticed with a lot of people they are seeking something. Like they feel incomplete without having a s/o so they put it as their very top priority. Others I've known to feel somewhat left out because they have maybe never experienced anything romantically and feel semi pressured based on age and peers that maybe they should because everyone else is. It's not wrong to explore your options. However, I think personally one should not seek out and look for a relationship. Let it come to you. Don't meet people and get to know them with the only intention of being possibly in something romantic with them. Let the love find you as corny as that may sound. Sometimes these are random people you come across from friends or classes that work whatever you talk but it's not with any sort of intentions just genuine connection. You aren't getting to know them just because you find them attractive or whatever and want to make a move on them eventually. You are getting to know the person just to get to know them. Maybe their interests follow with yours and you can bond over it. You guys talk over spans of time become friends and grow more and more close, but it has that natural feeling like you were meant to meet this person. You didn't seek them out they "came to you" and most likely they would feel the same way about you. This sometimes could even be the person you've been friends with from ages and never expected anything to come from then boom! Just let love do its thing. Don't go out looking for it it'll come to you promise, a lot of times when you least expect it. I think if you want a sturdy genuine relationship that is the best route cause you just just appreciate each other for who y'all are. 

2. Date people who fit your morals

Why date someone who doesn't have the same morals as you? You may not have to agree with everything your partner believes, but you guys should agree on most. Dating someone outside your morals can cause drifts in the relationship and since they believe differently on whatever it may be it would be a constant struggle to overcome. I've known this to be one of the hardest things some couples go through, because some don't get to know there partner and there beliefs (or just discard it because there more concerned with other things like just "bagging them" to remember there human and have emotions an feelings on certain things.) and not getting to know there opinions and stances on things or knowing them and going against whatever it may be because your moral is different then well you know trust issues or uncertainly or whatever the feeling may be. Some couples can overcome this, but I believe it's easier to date someone who fits most if not all your morals you follow.

3.Private not not secret 

Don't publicize everything in your guy's relationship. There is no need for anyone besides who you are with to know about everything that happens between you two. Letting others know your guys business can not only cause trust to be broken it shows others to presume things about what is YOUR relationship. It lets others in when its just you and that one person. Gossip can spread maybe someone thinks they have the right to jump into your guys relationship because you gave them the permission with telling them or posting all you do. Would you really want people to know what happens between the two of you? What is supposed to be intimate and precious and not shared with multiple people. I'm not saying don't post your partner or let it be known they are you are with I'm implying you shouldn't talk about private moments with your partner. You shouldn't talk I'll of your partner when frustrated (rather maybe speak to the person so you can clear things up) so on. Show them off whatever, but do not let people know what happens in your guys dating life its none of there business. Keeping things private like not speaking on what happens between y'all, when y'all are fighting and posting it publicly or announcing it to people you know will leave the relationship to you and your partner only which I believe is how it really should be. However hiding that they you are there partner they don't like make it known they are unavailable and hiding you guys are together that's a problem and something I don't support.

4. Don't stop trying for your partner just because you got together.

The small things matter. These things can range from words of affirmation,random gifts, opening the door for your s/o, love letters, quality time, kisses, cuddles you name it. I've seen some people just slowly stop doing simple things for their partners once they finally got with them or over a course of time. I don't think that's how it should be. Just cause you guys are together doesn't mean you stop "wooing" them. Still be romantic at times. Show you love them. Show your interest hasent decreased. 

5. Be with people with similar experiences as you.

This may be controversial and not saying everyone should follow as every rls and person is different but I think from my experiences and others I know dating someone who has the same level experience in that subject works out. Think of the advantages that you have with this. Let's say you're a person with little to no experiences and you end up with someone that never at all. You may have some experiences, but nothing super drastic in which make you above them in anyway. You both lack knowledge, but get to learn together and from my experience personally that has been amazing. No need to look back and be jealous because I was his firsts of a lot of things and he was my firsts for many things as well and we have been together for almost a year and known each other for four years prior. However before him I dated a guy who had a lot more experience than me kinda a fk boy if you know what I mean. It was hard for me to not be jealous although it was his past. It was hard for me and him to be anything more than friends because I didn't fit his requirements because I was super inexperienced compared to him an the things he wanted seemed to far to me as somebody who at the time had no first kiss no hand holding nothing while he was you know up there. It was a expectation. So I've experienced both povs of what it's like to be with someone who is experiences with someone who isn't and a relationship between two people who lacked and I'm in a much more successful relationship now than I was couple years back. However I see the thrill of being with someone who knows more they can teach you and stuff. I think it varys on person and each relationship is different maybe that works for you, but if someone were to ask my thoughts on the matter that's what I'd say. Being with someone who knows as much as you do dosen't have to be exact, but similar works and you guys can grow a closer bond learning and working throught it together.

6. Work through problems rather than giving up

I must empathize WORK THROUGH PROBLEMS DONT HOLD GRUDGES. I don't know how many people that came to me about there problems or I'd overhear where they admit they don't work through these problems and let it boil up. That's not what you should do. You need to speak to your partner and acknowledge the problem and talk through it. Sometimes people don't even know they made you feel a certain way and how can one fix the problem if they don't even know there was a problem? Some may know there's a problem, but again you guys have to communicate and talk through thought processes why they did or said or whatever they did and maybe you guys can come to a solution. Sometimes things take trial and error. Everyone makes mistakes. Nobody is perfect so don't expect yourself or your partner to be. Let yourself learn from mistakes and overcome. It will only make your relationship stronger.

7. Build trust

I noticed another big thing I've had people speak to me was about trust. Entering a relationship is like another domain. You're getting to know this person unlike anyone else. Seeing them at their absolute most vulnerable. I think its a requirement to be trust there. I understand the whole trust issue thing, but at least try to work on it more with them if there isn't trust already there. Although being with this person I think the first thing that should be there is trust. It's very important. Don't go against your partner and things they don't like and not expect them to be upset. For example lets imply your partner is upset because both of you guys agreed you guys thought having ex's added was a no go, but you are talking to your ex and communicating with them at school. Maybe you don't have them added, but you're still communicating and befriended your ex. That's a break of boundaries and trust. Of course there would be trust issues after that. Things can be fixed if communication and trust is there obviously, but if you went and did something knowing they would be upset about you are going over boundaries and decreasing the level of trust they have for you. If you and your partner struggle with this communicate. Trust is like glue to a relationship. If there's no glue nothing's attached.

You know your guys situation better than anyone does so handle tit the way you think it should. Don't let people deter you from doing what's best for you guys. These are just things I'd say to someone if they asked my thoughts, but at the end of the day its what you think so do what's best for you and your partner. Just wanted to ramble because the other day me and my boyfriend were discussing this very topic lol.