Why Some of Us Don’t Fit in Big Discord Servers

I actually hate big Discord servers. I'm in 15 right now, 3 of which are mine.

I've been in hundreds at this point. I’ve been banned in over 50+, at least, and left over a hundred. To be fair, I've been on Discord since 2015, almost from the start. If you're anything like me, you know you have a mouth and that it will get you in trouble from time to time. So I've been banned for opening my mouth and pissing off a mod.

I've also been banned for just existing and not doing anything. I've seen servers favor one asshole over another while I sit there and say a simple thing like, "Hey! How's your day going?" And then someone opens their mouth and tells me to fuck off because I'm a furry. Oh no, I'm into something you're not. Better get angry like a 12-year-old, am I right?

It's not that I don't get along with people — I can. I can be the most NPC you need. The problem is that people don't like me because I am open, honest, and able to speak my mind. I'm able to look at the world from the other side. While most people look at something and don’t question it, I look at it and go, "But why did the chicken cross the road? For what purpose?" People hate it when I'm analytical, unfiltered, and sometimes too intense, and that carries over.

But I'm not here to defend my personality or want to return to servers I've been banned from. If anything, this is actually the opposite — it’s to help those who are like me. If you find yourself very critical about anything you love — whether it's Fortnite, being a furry, Harry Potter, I don't care what it is — and you KNOW you're anything like me, DO NOT join a big server. Start a friend group instead. The main reason is that you'll feel better knowing all those people, versus being around random people who are just looking to start problems.

That’s how I handle my main Discord. I turned off my invites previously. It's invite-only from me or someone I trust. People would join, be dicks to my friends, act like they were better than them, or just not understand my rules and break them. I'm a very easygoing and easy-to-talk-to guy. I don't mind almost any subject — very, VERY few things I won't talk about.

The issue I run into a lot of times, I would say, is that people don't like how I react. They don't like that I defend myself. My entire life has been that: if I defend even the tiniest little thing about me, people get all mad and think they're in the right. Instead of looking at it from my angle, they think they are the only right ones there.

You're wondering, "What does any of that have to do with being in a Discord?" OK, sure, it seems like that, but think about my personality. People often don't know or like me at first because I'm a very outspoken person. I'm the guy who can talk to basically anyone about anything with no fear, while others are scared shitless that they're going to make a mistake. That's my best guess.