DNIs and "holier-than-thou"

Probably my most controversial post I have made yet. Tread lightly you know.

I wasn't sure what category to use as this is just for DNIs in general, but I'll be using Spacehey for the category.

I'm personally not a fan of DNIs, because of how I think they're a waste of time*¹ and just create tons of clutter in the blogs section. Something something curate your experience something use the block button something something don't feed the trolls. You could consider this a DNI slander blog.

Personally, I have a second issue with DNIs. The "hoiler-than-thou" mentality that comes along with it. I won't mean this to turn into any sort of discourse.*² It's just how I see some DNIs written.

I usually see DNI blogs that have little notes aside them that are judgmental in nature such as "DNI if you're racist (you're a gross triple K facist freak!!!)" for an example, and I'm not defending racist people that's just an example I provided. Real racist people wouldn't even be here in the first place, and if they did they wouldn't announce it in their profile, I'll get into this later.*³

Most DNIs seem to be some form of non religious purity check - it can all be summed up as "look at my beliefs! I DNI'd all of the bad guys! I'm so morally correct aren't I." because pretty much all DNIs in one big nutshell usually have what the original poster describes as 'bad people' and 'people who support bad thing/creator', sometimes even 'people who romanticize/normalize/glamorize bad thing' if you were feeling adventurous at that.

I don't mean to generalize but people who have DNIs don't really feel like they want those people to not interact with them, but it's more-so "look at how good I am, I do no wrong at all, if you display any form of evil you may leave out of that door my dear" because DNIs have stuff like 'homophobes, racists, pedos, nazis' and such. It makes me think DNI has lost a little meaning overtime.

This is a more smaller issue I have that I'll at the last minute cram into this post. These terms: Basic dni, Weirdos, Creeps, Weird people, etc. and "[certain media] fans DNI"

I personally have something against "Weirdos DNI", "Creeps DNI", "Weird people DNI" because those words are very subjective. Only people with low self esteem consider themselves a "creep" or else a "weirdo" and something else about radiohead. People won't magically know when they are a 'bad person' it's only if others tell them about it, even then that's also extremely subjective too. 'Weirdos' could mean something like people who message you "send bob and vagene" all the way to autistic people that have "I'm such a weirdo >u< I loved fnaf and undertale ever since middle school!!!" in their bio.

Being specific is key, instead of just "Weirdo" say what your supposed definition of weirdo is! god damn!

Basic DNI is slightly less bad than the rest but then again, it's still very subjective and only what's called "terminally online people" would be able to get what that means. The average person is sometimes just too lazy to Google your magical carrd terms*⁴ unfortunately; but even then the "basic dni" definitions that are found online have differing criterias, so even "basic dni" is still pretty ambiguous like the other ones!

As for the "fans of [certain media] DNI" that's quite possibly the most trivial thing to put in a DNI. I don't mean to be aggressive but if you see someone who likes a certain thing you don't like that's interacting with you, suck it up, you'll live. It's a different story if you had a bad past experience that just happened to be associated with a piece of media, if so scroll all the way to the very last paragraph of this post before the footnotes.

On the other side of the coin is people saying "[certain media] fans DNI" because of the fandom it has: fandoms are notoriously toxic, and people can like something without interacting with the fandom. For example I personally enjoy MLP:FIM but I don't participate in the fandom. (I'm open to being made fun of for being a pegasister "in the big '25")

And "[certain media] has a bad creator!" have you heard of "seperate art from artist"? you can like 'bad' media without having to support the 'bad' creator.

Oh yeah, remember that "racist people won't announce that they're racist in their profile" dear reader? I'm about to get into that now:

To give you, dear reader, one fat reality check: There are probably people that will purposefully hide their identity just to be friends with you. Nobody's going to parade the fact they're homophobic in their bio or show little blinkie badges to say they advocate for skinning babies alive.

Infact, only talking about your best qualities and hiding your bad traits is a common thing especially when making friends - the first meetup (or messages if it's online) isn't a church confessional booth. Infact you the dear reader may be doing this too! when's the last time you announced that you were a wanted criminal and if you were caught you'd be put on death row in your profile for everyone to see?

'Tis the art of lying. If you really want to be absolutely sure you're not Spacehey friends with a secret puppy kicker, the next best thing is interrogating the hell out of your newly accepted friend. Which might make others think you're a paranoid schizo, excuse my rude language (I'm sure that all you people that fit in that 2 worded description are great people).

Alternate accounts exist for a reason, for people to keep their main account pure and allow themselves to put all of the bad stuff about them in their super secret alt account. You might have one, and I might have one; but neither of us will know because I don't put "SUPER ULTRA MEGA SECRET ACCOUNT RIGHT >>> HERE <<< DNI STILL APPLIES" in my profile.

The internet is your unique experience; curate it. Block users, block tags. Perhaps instead of having DNI lists have "FYI" lists where you give a heads up to anybody that interacts with you, or have no list at all. Blocking takes about 5 seconds max on any social media, if you can spend 15 hours doomscrolling, you can defintely shave off a good 5 seconds from your doomscrolling sessions to block something.