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Uuuh ok so like I kinda need advice I know it’s weird to ask on here but like it’s kinda my last option so I’m in this situation with a friend I’ll call her V me and V have been friends since eighth grade we are seniors this year so for five years and for the last two years I have felt nothing but a back burner friend I can’t tell if I’m not seeing a bigger picture and I’m just dense or I have nothing to cry about but I went online schooling my sophomore year due to racial bullying and constantly being jumped for being a out trans person (small schools suck) and my friend V has always known I was a guy we actually dated before I went online but it ended cause her grandparents didn’t want her around a “aggressive d-slur” and we split after four months I asked her to keep it secret not demanding but just a question she said she “can’t lie to her grandpa” so fast forward til now she’s had about six shitty boyfriends who all lie steal and cheat from or on her I had to actually fight one for trying to beat her she’s got this new guy Alex I don’t care to name drop him hes a ass here’s why every since they got together earlier this year we don’t talk text nothing ive reached out numerous times ive expressed myself over the years how she’s done this on occasions with certain friend groups of hers or boyfriends she always and I mean always said “sorry didn’t mean to make you feel that way just going through stuff” which I’m never one to discredit someone’s suffering but when I ask her what’s up she just leaves me on open and with this new boyfriend she’s started all this racial stuff saying the n word makinh SA jokes both of us are survivors her excuse about the n word was “I’ll never use it on you SEB” (I’m biracial) I think what I’m asking is that is it reasonable to cut off a long term friend who has been in and out of my life constantly discrediting my hobbies (I’m a furry) and has this backhanded transphobia and racism I ask cause I always feel guilty trying to drop her as a friend since she’s always saying how she’s alone no one loves her and that she has no real friends I will admit myself I have stepped back from her over the summer I’m not innocent I have had patches when I was distant off with old friends but I’ve apologized and explained myself her friends don’t even know me infact one of them told me to my face I was basically V's “autistic pet” which when I told V she found it funny I’m not officially diagnosed with autism but I’m in the process of it (sorry if this makes no sense this is just how I remember it simply cause I have a genuinely bad memory)