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I don't know if I'm weird or just a jerk, but honestly, I'd rather be in online relationships instead of irl ones. I feel like the men I've dated online/offline just reinforced my comfort level. I'm someone who was in a long-distance relationship for many years (quite toxic, by the way), and after it ended, I realized that I HATE irl relationships with all my heart. I'm pretty sure is because of my bad experiences with men, but honestly i can't stand normal dating. The fact that i have to go with them in dates, kissing, hugging, holding hands and all that kinda piss me off.
I feel like online relationships are easier (at least for me) but maybe is because of what i already said, men being awful to me.
Am i weird or smth?
Edit: thx for being so kind to me and giving respectfully your opinions, honestly i was waiting to be called weird or neglectful, but just to clarify: i haven't been involved on a serious relationship on a whole year since i found out that i feel dating lika a chore, so i avoid hurting people that really could have feelings for me. Keep being kind to people and i hope y'all have a good week🩷
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space_cadet
i have no idea who you are, and that’s kinda what i like about online relationships. But i worry getting into them just divides your life into “them” and “not them”. Idk what im trying to get at. I think i just want to meet someone who isn’t tied to my life in any way, and the love comes from the act of discovering the intricacies of the other person.
JustAlex
ive had similar experiences but came out with the opposite conclusion. its hard to show emotion thru text at least for me, cuz it seems soulless. u cant let ur swag blossom if you cant even see each other.
that bein said there should be some experience before u officially start being in a relationship, like build each others lore first. Friends to lovers or something like that.
Shane R
This is probably going to be a far stretch, but I wanted to say something. myself have been in long distance relationships, and the heartbreak and betrayal you feel when they mistreat you is horrible. After my last long distance relationship I grew cold and repressed, I hated the idea of being touched and held. Any expressions of love someone had toward me was ignored. But you’ll eventually figure it out. I know that it’s likely it’s all a response to how you were treated before, so just take it easy. Treat and care for yourself. You shouldn’t feel like a relationship is a burdening chore, you should allow yourself to be loved. And I’m very very sorry that people have ever made you feel the way you do. You will eventually find an answer to what you’re looking for. Good luck. And please look after your well being.
Pot
"The fact that i have to go with them in dates, kissing, hugging, holding hands and all that kinda piss me off."
I had similar feelings before I met my boyfriend. I was super anxious thinking about everything that a relationship consists of, and how I didn't wanna do it. But alas, I met my bf and those things don't seem like chores anymore, but something I want to do naturally
Personally I can't date a person if I don't have a good friendship built under it. I can have crushes and whatnot, but the thought of doing all that relationship stuff makes me uneasy. Idk how it really works, only my boyfriend cracked the code. But I think it has a lot to do with the friendship that we built before any of that romantic stuff. Maybe it's the same for you, and you just gotta meet that special someone. Maybe not, who knows :P
But at least I suggest not to start a relationship with someone, if the relationship feels like a chore
Yeah, that's why i've been avoiding dating with peiple lately. I've been near one full year without havin a boyfriend because i'm scared of hurting them with my own issues
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Good Skepterk
“Jannette, will you online marry me?”
yea this is peak ✌️
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That's exactly how i'm going to marru
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doom1472
Nah I think they're easier too, not that I've been in one tho, but if did want to get in a relationship I'd probably take online over offline
if I did*
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