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This blog will deal with themes and statistics involving people's sexual attraction towards trans individuals, but has some really interesting information in it! 


Some Unnecessary Context: I woke up at 4AM today with some sort of sudden anxiety/panic attack, which have been happening recently for some reason. That isn't the topic of this blog though. More importantly, after eventually calming down, I started looking through Instagram passively (probably not a good thing to do after an attack like that, but still), and stumbled upon a post about trans-chasers (cis people who fetishize trans people). 
This got me thinking and it lead me to a Wikipedia page about attraction to trans people. 
And like any reasonable person, at 6AM~, I started looking through the wiki's page sources and finding the research/studies listed, and I found some rather interesting stuff in the process, which I'll be sharing here! 

Cis People & Trans People: One of the more interesting statistics, which is listed in the wiki above, from this study/book, is about how many people have actually fantasized about trans people previously; roughly one in three men and one in four women. This was interesting to me, considering that those numbers differ quite a bit compared to the amount of people who are actually interested and open to being romantically involved with trans people, as seen here. A thought occurred to me as I read that statistic... which is "does that number include those who are solely crossdressers?" and surprisingly, but luckily, it does not.
As the book reads: "When looking at my participants’ favorite fantasies of all time, gender-bending was relatively low on the list; however, when I asked whether people had ever fantasized about it, it turned out that a surprisingly large number had. For instance, about one-quarter of men and women had fantasized about cross-dressing, and nearly a third had fantasized about trading bodies with someone of the other sex. In addition, about one in four men and one in six women had fantasized about sex with a cross-dresser, and even more (about one in three men and one in four women) had fantasized about sex with a transsexual partner." (Chapter Two in the "Homoeroticism and Gender-bending" section)
I really wouldn't have expected that people were less sexually attracted to crossdressers than trans people, and yet, at the same time, part of me was kinda unsuprised. This fact reminds me a lot of how many homophobes have been found to have attraction (often unconscious) to homosexuality. 

The Cis-Straight People Who Are Trans-Attracted: Heterosexual cis people are least inclined to romantically engage and date trans people, so it seems, with only about 1.8% of cis heterosexual women and 3.3% of cis heterosexual men in the study suggesting that they would date trans people. What is interesting is when you look at the cis straight men who *will* date trans-women (there is unfortunately not much data on other demographics attraction to any subsets)... many of them are uncertain about whether they should consider themselves bisexual or not, but despite that, they've been found to (usually) have the same reactions to trans-woman that they would to cis-women, as opposed to any "gay signals", implying that they do indeed see them as women. 
This being said, cis women seem to react more favorably to advances from trans people than cis men do, though there is a fair chance this has both to do with women fearing the possibly-violent advances of cis-men and being less overall transphobic than cis-men.

The Cis-Queer People Who Are Trans-Attracted:
 In relatively drastic contrast to those previous numbers, about 11.5% of cis gay men and 28.8% of cis lesbian women report being open to dating trans-people. This is in juxtaposition to the idea often touted that lesbian women in particular hate trans people, since they seem the most romantically-open of the non-bisexual cis populations, though of course that number is still not a majority. The Blair-Hoskin study then groups together bi or more generally queer men, women, and NBs into another whole group, with 51.7% of that population suggesting that they would date trans people.

(For any of the above stats about the 2018 Blair-Hoskin Study, you can reference it and see how it breaks down among certain trans subsets in this diagram)

Social Standards & Those Attracted To Trans-People: In the previously linked book, "Tell Me What You Want", the author suggests that it seems those who are more likely to be attracted or open to trans individuals and or to be homoflexible, etc, are also more likely to have other sexual deviations from what is expected. One can probably interpret this in a number of ways, but the author interprets this as showing that in reality its a sign of how much people are willing to contradict with what the world / society tells them they should desire, i.e. to deviate from whats is socially expected.
The book reads: "However, sexual flexibility is also, to some extent, a general willingness to try to new sexual things—especially things that might be socially or culturally forbidden. This idea—that sexual flexibility isn’t limited to the gender of your partner—is not something that many other scientists have previously argued, but it’s something that’s strongly supported by my survey data. When I looked at participants who said that they were either exclusively gay or straight, I found that those who had fantasies about same-sex contact were more likely to have a whole host of other sexual fantasies that deviate from what many people consider “normal.” For instance, they were more likely to fantasize about being with partners of different races, engaging in BDSM sex, having group sex, and being consensually nonmonogamous, among other things. In other words, we’re talking about a very general erotic flexibility here that goes well beyond being flexible about the gender of one’s partner. It includes flexibility with respect to other partner characteristics, such as race, as well as flexibility in terms of trying new sex acts, such as BDSM." (Chapter Three in the "A Quick Sexual Vocabulary Lesson")


This was all really interesting to me, and I hope it was for some of you!!
There is a lot of other really worthwhile data, stats, and theories in many of the sources above, but I could not get to everything. I might make more posts about this, since there is a lot of other fascinating stuff in Justin Lehmiller's book that I kinda want to talk about. 
Also, apologies for any typos or mistake that may be in here, I am writing this on only a few hours of sleep!





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Explorer of Wonder

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What you researched is extremely interesting, and the unnecessary context made it even better.


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Thank youu!! I just made a follow-up blog that was somehow even more well-researched than the initial blog.

by LuciLucilia; ; Report

I come from there lol. I just wanted more context. Reading the conclusions without the original content sometimes is unsatisfactory.

by Explorer of Wonder; ; Report

Owhh! Yes I agree. Too many people read conclusions without substance. Sometimes you have to, but you miss things that way.

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LuciLucilia

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I titled this "slow descent" but this feels like a rather rapid descent, actually...


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It is really slow, because I have been having "impulsive research moments" for years and sometimes recording what I have researched. The madness will come little by little, until it becomes a practical part of your being.

by Explorer of Wonder; ; Report

I mean I already do this sort of thing often, have for quite some time, a lot of them just haven't made their way to SpaceHey (yet).

by LuciLucilia; ; Report

I feel the same way, most of my sleepless nights only manifest in such specific knowledge that my close ones in real life are surprised or scared.

by Explorer of Wonder; ; Report

Hehe yeah, relatable. I've been told recently that my intelligence / knowledge is intimidating. I kind of like that though. Perhaps you understand.

by LuciLucilia; ; Report

I understand, it happens to me, in the moment I enjoy it and then it's sad that I don't have anyone to share those interests with. I tend to create a "desensitizing effect" on my close ones. At first, they are scared, but the more they get to know me, the less they are scared by those things. What they almost never know is where I come from or where I am going, both physically and cognitively, and that continues to scare them no matter how much time passes.

by Explorer of Wonder; ; Report

Physically?? As in you sneak up on them?
Regardless, I understand the cognitive part, and I feel you. I am glad people at least begin to understand you more. Keep putting yourself in the right spaces and you'll eventually find more people who can keep up with you though.

by LuciLucilia; ; Report

I don't sneak up, I just approach, do my things or start talking, and they notice with a startled shock. The curious thing is that many times (especially when I'm with people I trust or I'm very happy), they tend to tell me that I make a lot of noise when I walk because I tend to step down hard with my heel (it's not on purpose, that's just how it comes out). I hope to one day find people who understand my weird connections and 'complex' reasoning, but it seems like it's going to take time. For now, I will keep simplifying my vocabulary (especially in Spanish, which is my native language) and trying to explain my ideas in a simpler way.

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