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Media's promotion of bad relationships and tips on how to have a HEALTHY relationship

Todays media promotes toxcicity so much. In this blog, we will cover topics on being 'nonchalant', not caring about partners, using people, and shaming people etc. Feel free to share your opinions and  skip through topics.

Nonchalance

If you consider yourself nonchalant, make yourself aware of the damage you create in your relationships. I do not mean people who joke about it, theyre fine. I mean the people who respond "Okay" when people say they open up to you. The people who don't try and change when someone tells them that they hurt their feelings. The people who dont smile when they see someone they love. All things weve normalized as nonchalant. ITS NOT ATTRACTIVE. Its attractive when you care, when you put effort into relationships, when you dont make them question if you are using them. Please, learn. its not attractive!!


'Talking about your S/O is weird!'

Breaking news, people you date don't want to meet your friends after weeks/months of dating and hear "I didn't know you had a partner!" its usually considered a red flag lol. if people havent mentioned one word to their friends then it likely means they are embarrassed about you. Or that they want to be in multiple relationships. Of course, moderation is good and your friends dont wanna hear "S/O" "S/O" "My S/O" "Their so beautiful" every minute. I LOVE when people talk about me to their friends. It makes me feel like they like/love me enough and are proud. Alot of the people who are angry about blog posts about peoples S/O's are ALL single and jealous, the internet wont change for you when you couldve just chose to not consume the content. 


Dating others to fix your own self esteem

You shouldnt date people just to date someone. You shouldn't date someone JUST to brag. You shouldnt date someone because you can't love yourself enough and need extra love. The wisest man will live happily as he has both his own and his lovers love. Of course thats different with aromantic people as they are happy with being single, but having self love IS important in relationships. People arent objects, new bags to carry around and show off. Their your lover, someone you can walk with and talk to. You cant talk to a bag, can you.


Shaming your partner

Trust is a HUGE thing in relationships. it doesn't mean they trust you to not spread it, it means they literally feel SAFE that you wont judge them. When you tell them that they annoy you, or that you dont like something about their appearance, that hurts them. I know that people make relationships seem like something where you just make out and talk. No, theres trust, theres hanging out, theres walks, theres paying attension. theres all of these things that when everyday people who think it IS just making out and talking then see that theres more and they get scared by it, they break up, and then there on to the next person. noone will want to date you if you text them once a week and dont put effort in being with them.


Avoiding your partner, because your a 'bother'

You NEED to text your partner, you need to walk with eachother in between classes, you  NEED to do these things. As mentionef before, relationships arent just kissing once in a while and then npt talking for a month. Ive started only dating people to get to the point where id want to potentially marry them. If you dont see a future with them, thats not a relationship. Sure a future might take a while to form but every second that passes is the future. If you cant wait a year with them you cant wait 10. If you cant wait 9 months there shouldntve been s3x. IF YOUR LOVE IS CONDITONAL YOU DONT LOVE THEM! If your gonna leave them because you got them knocked up, i have no respect for you. if you mutter the words 'I love them.. but' i have no respect. LEARN PEOPLE.


Refusing to grow and how people think people want them to change for them

I dont feel like I should have to say this but its been a popular subject for a long while. No, your girlfriend isnt trying to mold you into a perfect man because she told you not to cheat on her. YOU LEARN. YOU LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES YOU DUMB FUCKS! Like genuinely what did you expect? you hurt their feelings but no, your always right. that toxic behavior lol. Changing someone means telling them you like black hair and if they dont dye it youll leave them because your unattractive.


Self worth is beautiful. Love yourselves. 


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