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hiii guys! i'll be sharing my opinion towards romanticized toxic relationships because from what i've seen EVERYWHERE, there should most definitely be a line drawn. i've been dealing with so many of my friends STAYING with absolutely horrible people and as a person who always hears the issues and provides solutions towards those issues, it saddens me. i'm always there for comfort, it is never tiring for me to provide the emotional support as well as the solutions but as soon as i'm involved in actual trouble because of how much i don't support relationships, it becomes an issue for me to stay associated with those kind of people. i have had TONS of boyfriends/girlfriends hate me for primarily one thing and it is for me saying that their partner should break up with them. i am aware that there are a variety of ups and downs that a relationship can have and that are SOLVABLE by communicating and comprehending one another. although, IT GETS TO A POINT.
if you decide to stay with someone who shows any kind of discrimination towards specific groups of people (racism, ableism, homophobia, etc) regardless of whether if its direct discrimination or even jokes and such, you can be depicted as supporting the behavior by not viewing the behavior as wrong. condoning this kind of behavior can result in the harm of yourself as well as other people. based upon my point of view, i don't believe any kind of behavior like this provides exceptions/special treatment for loved ones. hypothetically, if you or your loved one got into an accident and become disabled afterwards and your partner clearly states jokes or discriminating sentences against disabled people, what would be stopping them from doing the same towards you or your loved one? I only believe that an individual can stay in a relationship dealt with that IF there is a GENUINE and EVIDENT change in heart for their partner. however, if there was the sudden direct attack including mockery or discrimination of the individuals identity factor from the partner, leave. there should be NO reason for a partner to directly attack you for those reasons and the fact that it was even thought about was bad enough. hypothetically, in the situation that you do share the same exact identity factors as your partner, if your VERY close friend who was of a different race was being disrespected by your partner through racism, would you leave? despite whether who started it first or even anything, discrimination shouldn't even be an option to think about in any kind of situation. therefore, you should not stay with someone who is willingly being discriminatory towards specific groups of people.
if you decide to stay with someone who cheated on you, you are staying with someone who doesn't actually love you. i believe that a cheater can stop cheating BUT not when they are in a relationship with the same person. why would you want to put your all completely onto someone who risked losing their relationship for a one night stand? there is no equal treatment between the individual and their partner due to lack in respect and different values. everything else of this should be self explanatory and going past the line of cheating is just immediate indication of a break up.
❤︎ i would write more but i got tired and frustrated at the reminder that my friends stay with these kinds of horrible people so i won't be writing more of a reason why people should break up with their "breakup-able" partner. (i might be reiterating things wrong and im truly sorry if it showed any kind of ignorance or disrespect, it is not my intention, i'm writing this in the middle of an all nighter and idk if some of these are factual but most are my opinion and beliefs so feel free to comment any thoughts in the comments :D)
★ Note: i understand some people are manipulated, abused, and stuff into staying in their toxic relationships but i'm writing all this IN THE SENSE that the individual is just "blinded by love" and theres nothing stopping them from leaving except for their love for them.
hehehe bai bai for now, i hope i fall asleep soon (つ╥﹏╥)つ
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Jojo
Honestly I’ve always felt like people like that just want something to talk about. Like it always feels like they want to keep having these problems so they have a conversation starter because it’s always either that they won’t take anyone’s advice that they asked for, they sound almost excited to bring up their relationship problems and turn down said advice, or both
aaahhhh i have the same perspective on some cases. i've had friends who always admitted that stating these problems and not attempting to fix it are just apart of the "dad lore" "mom lore" or even just "for the plot" and things like that. i really hope those who are putting themselves in the situation purposefully or are trapped in toxic relationships begin to learn their self worth. ｡°(°¯᷄◠¯᷅°)°｡
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Dandy Leon (彈帝獅)
I'm really dismayed by how little society has progressed in terms of recognizing, preventing, and ending toxic relationships.
A friend I fell in love with got knocked up and abused by a faux rasta add**t who was openly racist, only to then leave him for a redneck who like him, threatened away most of her closest friends.
Another friend of mine had two babies with an add**t only to end up marrying a military vet who owns and watches over her phone.
Almost every time I get onto TikTok, I see young women with similar life stories. It's depressing. :(
I completely agree in what you're saying, it's so saddening that theres not really much people can do to help individuals detach from these toxic relationships. it saddens me knowing that this is very common and it almost makes me feel like a by-stander in these situations. I appreciate your insight though :)
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CyberNinjaNJ
Relationships these days are so toxic fr². You got a lot of points here.
thank you for your understanding, i hope everyone snaps out of these kinds of relationships (╥_╥)
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