spanish and pronouns bwughhh

My mom is asking me how I want to be referred to in Spanish and around my family when we move to Mexico, and I don't KNOWWW. Cause y'know, it's a very gendered language, and she just wants to know how to talk about me to the family. I just do not know or care that much </3

I know there are many non-binary Hispanics that use the -e suffix and elle pronouns, but I doubt my family will use those and the neutral ending will not come naturally to them. If I use el it may be confusing for them since they know me as a girl, and if I use ella it'll be a later problem when I get on T and start looking more masculine.

I think all around this is just the problem with being genderqueer, and to be myself is to be confusing to others. Honestly, I don't really mind the family calling me whatever, but my mom is the one that keeps bringing it up.