everyone is depressed nowadays. Why?

This is a pattern i have begun to notice among youths including myself. I thought it was an interesting topic that i would like to write about. Currently, i am 14 years old, and just like the prophecy foretold i have had my run-ins with hormones absolutely ruining my mood and in general the feeling of hopelessness. Another fact that will become relevant in a bit, is that i am neurodivergent (diagnosed) and most likely a pattern-recognising autistic (seeking diagnosis currently). I have read countless books where the 'evil, no-good parent' takes their anger out on their 'woe is me' kid, and a 'you don't even TRY to be happy' slips out. In general, the media and people agree that hey, depression is not that easy to solve. however, it got me thinking. on others behaviour, and my own. the more i look into it, the more (as kind of shitty it sounds) i begin to understand the parents perspective. depression is a very real and hard to deal with disorder, but i do not see the media or society helping anyone struggling. in fact, i would say while we (partly) have eliminated the stigma around being sad, there is now a general WANT to be sad within children as young as 9. i would like to say that this is also a reflection of MY OWN behaviours. sadness has become an excuse, no matter how much one denies it. deep down, we have begun to act like daily life is the misery olympics. 'you can't be a good person without suffering!' in some instances thats true (understanding more perspectives due to your own experiences), but people take that to mean 'i must suffer the most to be the best'. some people think their scars make them BETTER, no matter how much they deny it. sadness is a mattress to fall back on, to spit in someones face and tell them 'sorry, i'm just suffering.' and then be upset when their actions affect others. [NOTE!!!!!!!!!!! I KNOW BEING BIPOLAR EXISTS AND I KNOW SOME PERSONALITY DISORDERS AFFECT HOW PEOPLE ACT!!! ALSO THAT SOME PEOPLE ACCIDENTALLY VENT THEIR EMOTIONS BY HARMING OTHERS WITHOUT MEANING TO!!! THIS IS ABOUT certain PEOPLE WHO EXPECT EVERYONE TO BE UNDERSTANDING ALL THE TIME ABOUT THEIR DETRIMENTAL-TO-OTHER-PEOPLES-MENTAL-HEALTH BEHAVIOUR BECAUSE 'THEY'RE SUFFERING'] this doesn't apply to everyone, but it applies to most youth i meet these days, and even myself. their 'trauma' makes them cool, gives them community. thats another thing, community. being sad has gathered people together. thats not bad, as it helps a TON when you know you're not alone during a hard period. however, sometimes this goes the other way around. being sad gives you support, love and friendships that bond over a shared hurt. so, why would you willingly leave this feeling? being sad holds this support together (which should also be talked about, why are people only giving kids support when they're already falling?) so the obvious option is to keep being sad. your brain also believes what you tell it, so doomscrolling tiktoks under the hashtag vent is not helping. neither is listening to sad music. 

personal experience time yaaaay!!!!!!! sometimes i have rough moments when i remember something i wish i could leave in the past. since i have come to this whole realisation, i immediately distract myself with funny videos, happy music or literally anything that doesn't feed into my shitty mood. you'll never guess what. it works!! obviously this won't work for everyone, but for the majority of people i know, it does. i mean, if i was failing at exams and i saw people older than me say 'oh yeah no you're gonna KEEP FAILING!!!!!! AND LIFE SUCKS!!!!!!!!!' i would feel ten times worse and be demotivated. i mean, life SUCKS doesn't it? thats what everyone i know tells me, so *why even bother trying?* 

so i guess what i'm getting at is generally, i've noticed more people 'be sad' for the sake of seeming like a better person, for the community it gives you and being sad because of the media they take. this is a very long rant based off of me sitting in the shower for 30 minutes thinking about mickey mouse. thank you for coming to my ted talk. (i probably missed a bunch more points that i had in my head and forgot)