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A lot of times i’ve hinted my mom towards getting me therapy or a diagnosis since i was around ten but every slightest thing that indicates that i may have a mental disorder or need someone to talk to is the moment i’m shunned or slightly threatened. I try my very best not to think about what she mentions whenever something like that happens, but it’s such an unnerving feeling that comes to follow every time I think about getting a diagnosis myself. That if I get a diagnosis in the future and show it to her she may flip out and shame me. I do understand that it may have something to do with as a parent feeling as if you’ve done something wrong, but even in that case that “i’ve done something wrong” could be fixed if you let your child get a diagnosis.
Like she let my little brother get a diagnosis that he has autism, but when it comes to a mental illness or anything relating to a depression disorder it’s all of a sudden “attention seeking”, “episode”, or “i’m not having it”. It’s honestly such a horrible feeling that creeps up all of a sudden when i talk or joke about something that if in the slightest way i may have a mental disorder she’ll see me as a shame.
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Davit!
I've always had a similar problem in my family! It's incredibly frustrating and upsetting, even more so when the symptoms are noticeable or even something that has gotten you in trouble, or at the very least in some uncomfortable situations where some support could have been great.
Personally, I've come to find that it can be an issue of taboo/stigma, where the parents either don't want their child to face that fully or share those negative views themselves; of denial, where they simply can't or refuse to acknowledge that something is wrong or different, possibly even a denial of their own issues in cases of hereditary conditions; or even flat-out neglect because it's easier to pretend the child doesn't need anything beyond the basics than to truly step up as a parent and caretaker for someone else, usually due to biases with others or just their own disfunction.
No matter the explanation, it's a terrible situation to be in and you deserve better, I hope you're able to get a diagnosis and any necessary support soon :[
xxRebellious_Emmaxx
Honestly, I believe that much of the time, it's due to stigmatization and how some labels still remain stigmatized more so than others (especially in some countries and cultures where being diagnosed may be especially taboo). In other cases, it may be denial or not knowing what to look for even if the signs are generally quite obvious.
Tavex
Sometimes some parents are against the diagnosis because of narcissism and perfection more than anything, they cannot face that their family is imperfect and they prefer to live in a fantasy rather than actually do something, and worse, They know something is seriously wrong and decide to ignore it or even suppress it, You can't deal with that kind of people, it's better that you seek help from people who truly care about you.