LONG DISTANCE IS A ROLLERCOASTER!!

OK OK I kinda just wanted a blog to talk about my BF, but I'll also ramble about the hardships about being long distance.

I met my boyfriend 4 years ago in April 2021 on the NOW DEAD site Omlet Arcade. I was a clueless teen trying to navigate livestreaming my animations and I made an intro post on my profile. He was one of the first people to reply, saying that we should be friends and such and that gave me a little boost knowing there were some engaging people on the app. It surprised me even more when I noticed his acc was a popular meme posting acc.

After exchanging a few words in Dms we found out we shared just one or two interests. He was interested in drawing art and I didn't mind teaching him what little I knew back then about artmaking. This went on and we exchanged Discord users. The convos got more casual as we got more comfortable with each other knowing we were living miles away from each other. 

A year/two passed and I got to meet his online friends as well and we all talked on a server. That was until I noticed I was developing feelings for him. He was a gentleman and it just amazed me how much we stuck together for so long. However I put my feelings aside because he was actually openly asexual and didn't seem like he was interested in being in a relationship with anyone either. But despite that our friendship grew.

What shook me even more was that he confessed he's liked me when he didn't know what I looked like (I showed him a few weeks after). I gave him my number and started including him into my space. I added him to old groups that had my irl friends and online friends and I started hinting to my parents that I might be in a relationship.

A few months passed and because of personal complications I made a decision to break things off :< (WHILE STILL KNOWING FULL WELL I LOVED THIS GUY DEARLY). 

Its now almost a year since we were back together and it just makes me cherish what we have built during that time.

We don't judge each other for anything and we make time out of our day to talk to one another (although calls are pretty rare but an understandable acception I've come to in the relationship), and we're proud of each other's dreams and successes.

But if I'm being honest here the internet probably RUINED my perception of LDR. It was fine until I installed tiktok again (I deleted it a month after we got together in '24) and the algorithm picked up I was in LDR around June. And let me tell you it was hell on earth.

Let me just preface this by saying:

THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG WAY TO DO LONG DISTANCE!!

The internet made me believe with each scroll and each LDR post that LDR has to be a cutesy, call everyday, go on virtual dates and have everything sorted out kind of thing. But tbh it doesn't have to be. 

Society also made me think that long distance just will never work in general and it makes me think twice when telling someone about my relationship. Don’t get me wrong, I’ll take a chance to yap about my bf to anyone who asks but then you have the usual questions.

• “Have you met him before?”
• “When will you meet?”
• “How does that even work?”

And when I answer em all honestly they give that silently judging face. I believe as long as you’re content and know you truly want to spend the future with your long distance partner, then that’s pretty much a good start for understanding what long distance is.

My relationship consists of mostly texting, sending each other photos of our day or voice messages and bonding by doing what we did all the way back in 2021. We have complicated days, days where there's a chance to call and enjoy and savor the moment because it might be the only one we'll have for a while. It consists of us talking about the future and the present and giggling about the past.

And as we've now both entered our era of adulthood, I look back and wish I could've told that clueless teenager that love transcends distance because I found someone that I truly connect with and LOVE dearly. 

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i drew that btw heh