person w divorced parents talks abt divorced parents

HI AGAIN!! so, i have divorced parents. theyve been divorced since i was 3 and unable to remember anything. so, keep that in mind as i dont remember the trauma from it.

ALRIGHT. SO. is it better for parents to divorce or stay tg for the kid?
YEP. IM GOING THERE IMMEDIATELY.
i think that personally, it depends on the situation. i cannot say for every couple, BUT my general blanket statment is that if parents are thinking of divorce/breakup/wtv, DO IT. it is MUCH BETTER for the kid. mind you, the divorce will mess them up, thats.. gonna happen either way, its unavoidable. but, if your partner and you are fighting, ESPECIALLY in front of the child, its time. pull up wtv legal papers you need to seperate.

kids look at their parents for what they should look for/tolerate in a relationship. if parents are healthy, communicating properly, and lovey-dovey in front of their kids and generally, the kids have a better chance of not being messed up in their future relationships. (this isnt adding any other factors but the parents relationship.) 

with this logic, if your partner and you are fighting or not healthy, the kid will see that and take that as the "ideal" relationship. WHICH IS BAD. 

i can attest to BOTH of these theories. my biological parents divorced (like i said.) and if i were to look at just their relationship where neither parent talked bad about the other, were civil to each other around me, and were fairly healthy/neutral, then i wouldve turned out less messed up.

however, i have a stepmom (dating my dad). they have been dating since i was ~4 and so i looked at THEIR relationship. what i will say to a bunch of strangers on the internet is it was NOT a healthy relationship, so little me saw that and it affected the way i act towards partners and how i react to their actions. WHICH ISNT GOOD. IN FACT, ITS BAD.

i am LITTERALLY a whole case of my rant, and i PERSONALLY can attest that seperating and just being civil and neutral is SOOO MUCH BETTER than staying in an unhealthy relationship. 

not like this probably matters, i assume many of yall are teens on the internet, some in those households. but, i wanted to yap about it, and my blog is now just my rants.