Love

So what is love? What is the definition of the word? I don't think there is a correct definition. Everyone has their own views on the subject. Based on what they have been through, what they have experienced. I don't think any of them can be wrong nor can they be right. And maybe there is a right way to love. How it should look. But how do we know that it is? Because we feel special around a particular person, people? I'm not sure if you really can truly know. I used to think I knew exactly what it meant. But as I get older, as I experience more, as I think about it more, I'm very uncertain. What would it mean to love someone. The more you try to figure it out the more confusing it may be. It's such a broad word and used loosely, “I love myself” or “I love this house”, “i love my pet” “i love my parents” “I love this feeling” ``I love my boyfriend”, “i love you”. There are so many different things you can use the word for which I believe loses its real meaning. Not that I can really say what the meaning is though. Can you say you love all these different things and the word would still make sense? One thing I can feel right about it is that it's a very powerful word. I feel like it means a lot more than what people think. I don't think you should say you love all these things. Or is love even real? Does it even exist? Most people say of course it does, but how are you so certain of it? There are over 7 billion people and this place where you happen to have been to find them, can you say that you can't love anyone else? People come and they go. People you were friends with 3 years ago are not all there now. I try not to be so negative but I'm just not so sure. If you were born somewhere else, with a different family, or a different lifestyle, you would “love” someone completely. You visited a new place and found someone new, what if you didn't? And you were to find another person that you would “love” not ever knowing different things that could have been. As time goes on, more and more different pictures of love are portrayed. What loving someone is and would look like. I feel as the time progresses that picture of love gets more lost. I feel as if there are more to find too. It's so easy now to just use someone because they thought you loved them. That is another question I have, can you love someone but still hurt them. There are many different scenarios for this. If you unintentionally hurt that person but you still know it would hurt them can you say you love them? I don't think you can make someone 100% happy all the time if you love them just because nothing in this entire world is 100%. But I believe if you really love someone you would be loyal to them, always be there for them, and never try to hurt them. Relationships cannot be perfect and every person has their flaws. There is no perfect person, as you experience more, the more you start to see that. But I think if you can see past a person's flaws and help them(not fix them just for yourself) you do love them. I think the person you'd be most happy with is somewhere in this world but you'll never find them. It would be hard to find that person out of this entire world. But i think if you did, you would know they are the one. I have someone right now and I would really like to think they are my one person. I thought that about someone else but this person is different. I believe that other people at one point really did love them. I spent a lot of time with them and something would always feel missing without them but it's just different now. You're never going to be the same person as time goes on and the person you're looking for will change with that. But right now, they are the person for me and I would do anything for them. I know i can't be 100% sure like i said but i think it's important when you're with someone, not to overthink all of that. Your head really can ruin everything, If you go into a relationship thinking it's not going to work out, it probably won't. I'm rambling on about me but i wanted you to at least understand a bit how i view loving someone in a relationship. I don't want to sound like an expert because I'm certainly not right nor can I be wrong. But love is whatever you think it is, and your view on it will constantly change. Another question I have is, can you only love one person? Or could you use to love other people, Can you use to love someone but it fades away? Or if it didn't work, did you love them at all? All these different questions I could ask on and on, over and over again but none of them can be answered. So what is love to you? Have I got you thinking differently? Or maybe not. The more you hear other people's views the more you start to question. My idea of love will be different in a year from now. But I think love should be a beautiful thing, but it's okay for it to not always be that way. Thank you for my ted talk