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I tend to mention emotional availability a bunch. So, what does it mean to me? To me, emotional availability is about doing one's best to be transparent about emotions from an empathetic and understanding place. It's about doing one's best to be considerate, communicative, and sincere. It's about embracing honest and sincere appreciation and being mindful of the wants of Others in relation to our Selves and being mindful of our Own wants in relation to Others. To me, it's also about doing one's best to be direct and compassionate
I think that emotional availability is also about having a deep desire to be understanding : putting ourselves in each other's shoes & trying to see things from another person's perspective, digging deep beneath the surface of what/how things seem to be, a willingness to (MINDFULLY) explore the Unknown, and so much more! As a result, I think that emotional availability and understanding exists beyond image, status, and materialism; each human being has their own feelings, thoughts, opinions, and desires. I think that this is MASSIVELY, MASSIVELY underrated (HEAVY under-exaggeration) and not focused on enough (another HUGE understatement)! The uniqueness of human beings just exists in a way that is massively insane to me and is, in certain ways, beyond words (doing my best to describe this will be what I dedicate my life to)!
People are capable of way more things than they consciously realize (WAY more)! Everyone has their own World that exists beyond our realm of immediate comprehension. I dedicate my life towards exploring these Worlds. This requires mindful vulnerability. As a result, this is why I am seeking those that do their best to actively embrace emotional availability and understanding from a kind, empathetic, sensitive, and understanding place!
I think that emotionally available, kind , empathetic, sensitive, and understanding people are MASSIVELY underrated and GREATLY underestimated (and also, very misunderstood unfortunately)! These types of people are why meaning still exists the way that I see It and are the reasons that I'm still around! I think You are awesome and amazing and I desire that we are able to cross paths and be friends someday!
(Also, emotional availability tends to be spoken about in the context of romantic relationships; I speak about It from a place of deep friendship and understanding (I also happen to view relationship dynamics differently from how society views It, but that is for another time))!
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Dio
This is important from a parenting perspective too. Often times parents will scold their child’s action, without trying to understand their child. We should be communicating and learning about each other, instead of immediately dismissing each other’s action. One simple way to do is by validating their feelings, emotions, and mental state first, before moving on to criticizing their actions.
I am so curious to know how you view relationships differently from how society views it.
I really appreciated when you expressed this as I've seen This very similarly. As expressed before, I really appreciate you having a perspective that seems to focus on communication, learning, and the consideration of emotions!
Since you expressing this was one of the things that inspired the entry below, I decided to share the link here as well for anyone who's wondering about what you were curious about!
https://blog.spacehey.com/entry?id=1886097
by YottaChroma; ; Report
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I think kindness and vulnerability (amongst other elements that were listed) are also underrated and too often overlooked or dismissed. At least what I’ve experienced in the United States, I think it’s too common for people to wall themselves off from each other, guard the ice around their hearts and call it safety, too often lean into independency and disregard each other’s thoughts and feelings. I feel like we’ve shut down our neighbors and have grown more isolative as the years go by. It’s more rare, in my experience, for strangers to help each other and be vulnerable with each other.
There’s SO many stories and cases that I hear about where a stranger chooses to be kind to another, and that person is left in confusion and amazement that someone could show them kindness first instead of coldness or disregard.
I think humans at their core have a baseline desire for community and acceptance of their expressions and identities, but we’ve developed these mindsets that shame and belittle any beliefs or expressions that don’t immediately align with our own. We need to ask more questions and get to know our peers more, for I believe this is not only how we positively evolve as a species, but how we also learn more about ourselves. The way that we’ve been able to achieve enormous, incredible feats in our humanity’s timeline was through collaboration and feedback, not hate towards our neighbors or distaste towards ideas that we thought were too “different” from our own. I think we will thrive if we encourage a perspective that is perpetually curious, and open to changes and new perspectives
I love how you put this! Sadly, I feel like I've also been noticing the walls and the dismissiveness more and more
>There’s SO many stories and cases that I hear about where a stranger chooses to be kind to another, and that person is left in confusion and amazement that someone could show them kindness first instead of coldness or disregard.
EXACTLY! I'm glad that I'm not the only one to notice this and that you notice this as well. It feels bittersweet to me; I really do appreciate that there are those that still try to show/embrace kindness & consideration, and it seems tragic to me that things can get to the point where people are used to being treated with coldness/disregard (further highlights the significance/influence of embracing consideration).
When it comes to you mentioning humans having a baseline desire for community and acceptance of identity and expression (and your entire comment as a whole), I see It very similarly! Honestly, I think your comment really captures a fundamental element of what I find amazing about embracing emotional availability and understanding as well as those that try their best to do so! Thank you for sharing your perspective!
by YottaChroma; ; Report