My Experience With Dating Apps

Dating Apps, are they good?

i’ve been thinking about this for a while after using a dating app (hinge). i’ve realized they’re just NOT for me. 

this was about a year ago, i think. i met up w a guy from hinge. i was completely new to the whole 'romance' area probably because i had been homeschooled/sheltered lol. i was 18 at the time, kind of panicking about not having any 'experience' so i decided to give dating apps a try.

the guy seemed nice. he was from my town, worked as a barista, and was into outdoorsy stuff. he said he’d make me enjoy the outdoors too, and so i thought 'eh, why not?'

we met up outside a pub and i chose the outdoor table. i can’t remember what we ate, but i do remember he liked pepsi and i liked cola. i convinced him to order a cola so that way i could try a pepsi and see what the hype on pepsi was about (P.S. cola wins)

we talked about school, family, the usual. it was actually ok. after the meal, we walked by the river/walking trail. about an hour in, we passed a couple holding hands and i, (like the dumbass i was) jokingly said, 'wanna do that?' and thats how my 'holding hands' thing happened yikes... i really managed to give myself the biggest ick. it was awks at first but after a while things were alright.

after the date, we both agreed we should 'do this again' i gave the guy a hug bcs thats what ppl on dates do i think? idk lol. im pretty sure this was the first time i ever hugged a dude. i definitely came off as too enthusiastic/desperate (yikes)

back home i was hit w the realisation that maybe i wasn't too into the guy as i thought i was. plus, we had only knew eachother for about 120 minutes. i felt guilt ridden over this as i had already told him we'd see eachother again. ACK! me and my impulsiveness! (im acc aware that i tend to jump into things recklessly and have hurt people because of it which i absolutely regret. that's why these days i think through everything i do)

anyways my father later, managed to find out about my date and acted like a total drama queen lol. he threatened to cut me out of the family if i didn’t stop seeing the guy. he had this idea to ship me off to my mums home country japan, for a whole month so that i could “try to see my own value” he said smth like that. but in reality i think all he wanted to do was physically keep me away from the guy as far as possible haha.

since my father offered to pay for my plane ticket i was pretty onboard w this sudden trip to japan. i felt bad that i had to tell the guy that i wouldn't be seeing him but i couldn't possibily risk my living situation over a hinge date. i texted the guy and apologised briefly about my situation. it was a sad sayonara but off to japan i went! 

(P.S. oh yeah also i don't reccomend anyone to date somone who lives in the same town w you unless your not afraid of possibly bumping into them)

Final thoughts:

im sure that there's successful relationships formed on dating apps out there... but for me, this whole dating-on-apps thing really wasn't my cup of tea. i definitely won't be going back to apps, no thanks!

i don't think im big on the idea of presenting myself as a 'woman' to meet up w a 'man' and my existence to him being 'a date' to an utmost stranger. i don't know, i feel as if two strangers meet up w an already set romantic view on one another the connection will already be seen as romantically w also a sexual point of view before building a meaningful connection. imo, most relationships are better off by starting as a friendship, not instant attraction, i think. like getting to know someone outside of a romantic view. 


do u have an opinion on datings apps? if anyone out there has had any similar experiences feel free to comment down below! i wld rly love to hear your stories :D

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