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Today one of my coworkers was crying on and off next to me. She told me she was having a panic attack at one point too. I was really worried for her, but I didn't really know what to say :( I asked her once if she was okay after she stopped crying at one point, and she just said blankly "no." I told her that I believed in her and that she was gonna be okay and I understood how she felt, but ultimately idk if that was enough or if she found that to be empty. I wanted to keep asking if she was okay because I kept thinking about her, but I didn't want to make it any worse. Sometimes people like to be left alone when they're sad, and I don't know her well enough to know if she's one of those people. But also I felt like I wasn't doing enough. Ultimately I'm not her friend, I'm just a coworker she knows. I don't think I could've made a big difference even if I wanted to.
So, at the end of my shift I went up to one of her friends. I think they applied to my job together and know each other from high school or something. They're so close my managers joke about them being each other's "other half," stuff like that. If they're not best friends they're at least super close. Anyways, I tell this girl "[Coworker] is in a really bad mood... she was crying earlier and she told me she was having a panic attack. I'm really worried..." Her friend tells me that she knows and she won't even tell her about what's wrong. So I just say "well, I hope she's feeling better soon... I'm just really worried..." When I walked out I saw her heading in the direction she was standing, so I think she went to go talk to her. I just really hope talking to someone closer to her will make her feel better, at least a little. I've cried at work before and it REALLY fucking sucks, so I just hope that she knows that, even if we're not close, I do care about her and I am genuinely worried and want her to feel better.
I just hope I did the right thing. I don't want her to feel alone and like nobody cares. At the same time though, I don't know how to express that to an acquaintance without overstepping...
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R0MA!
of course you did the right thing come on, i personally dont care how close i am to people, if they're having a hard time i act like i know them since ever, and this lets people know you care, this would've been a good opportunity to actually get closer
never worry about seeming like you're getting your nose into other people's business by showing affection or offering help simply bc "you're not close enough",
people literally bond by being nosy about the others, that's literally how i made the best of my friends, maybe we should stop letting pits and canyons form between us and actually leap through them to get to the other persons side, even if sometimes they may throw us back into those pits, it doesn't matter, you tried
I just hope she thinks like that too! I just don't wanna be pushy hehe
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i think what you did was right :-). sometimes it can be hard to articulate appreciation when having an episode (i'd know firsthand lol!!) so maybe she was just too overwhelmed at the moment express that she was grateful. either way it's nice that you checked on her! and even nicer that you thought to tell her friend, who might've had an easier time speaking with her about it. u sound like an awesome coworker :-)
Thank you!! And I hope so. At the very least I hope she just knows that there are people that care for her. She’s done very kind things for me in the past so I just want to share at least a little of that.
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