This one's going to be dense...

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Ida once again, back babyyy

(If someone knows how to put background music I'd be trully gratefull for some help, meanwhile, please while you read this blog, I recomend listening to the song I leave here, I hope its not copyrighted, and in case it is that there is no problem using it XD)

(Weathergirl by FLAVOR FOLEY)

Today I've desired to talk about a topic which is both tragically sad and beautifully wholesome!! First, what we all go through after something good ends!

~~ The Grief ~~

 (Also known as the duel [I think?])

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Death is the usual cause of this... brutal feeling known as the grief. But you can have a Grief for many things. The loss of your job, a partner that has decided that things just don't work anymore and leaves you hangin'.

The Grief, more than a feeling its a process we all go through in order to get over a loss, of anything, you could have a grief for the loss of your keys from home even!

It is told this process has 5 stages:

Denial

Rage

Barganing

Depression

Acceptance

Let me say, this is quite true in most cases, but every person is much diferent emotionally than the other, so that means this is more of an aproximation of the process than the process itself, lets say, its not like the effects of drinking a beer, that goes from happy to DO NOT GRAB THE PHONE OR THE CAR KEYS.

The grief is, to define it my way, a process in which the mind of the individual tries to comprehend a loss, and the mind puts barriers to shield itself from further pain, which ends up being emotional-breakdown fuel more than anything...

It is not a pleasing sensation to be in the duel, its a very, very rough journey to get through, specially those like me who are preatty young, since we usually do not have the tools, knowladge or any way to express our feeling other than yelling, crying or breaking stuff.

But, there are many ways to pass this horrible mental anguish! Sometimes making things you like, like reading, writing, making music, hearing music, chatting with people, navigating the internet seeking... something idk!

Any way of distracting you from it is helpfull... if used in good mesure! Don't be careless, it may be good to forget about it from time to time, but its important you move on, and one of the most beautiful ways I know is through the many types of...

Tributes

(Also can be called Homages)

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A tribute is defined by Cabrige dictionary as "Something you say, write, or give that shows your respect and admiration for someone." Tho, I'd like more to use the version given by google, which is "An act, statement or gift that is intended to show gratitude, respect or admiration." Why? Because it supports my narrative :P and being less specific helps me think on a wider spectrum.

To start with, you may ask:

"How come a memorial to something or someone can help getting past its vanishment from ones path?"

You see, remembering is an important part of the duel, the memories you have with that person or object of your emotional warefare may make the grief harder to handle, thats where tributes come in.

In the case of people, doing things that person liked, developing habits similar to the ones the now gone individual had, that could be something silly, like every time you're in a zebra passing you only jump on the white ones because that person did, or something like drinking! or smoking. 

This kind of actions may seem like you're stealing that person's identity, when its quite the contrary! You're keeping the memory of that beloved person alive, in the best way possible, by keeping them within your heart!

To me, this kind of tribute is the ultimate simbol of love, that such has been your impact in that person, your loss makes them progress beyond what you could've, while keeping your memory alive, aswell as your person very much inside their core!

Its honestly, trully beautiful! Don't you agree :3? 

I do have tributed those that have been important to me, for even if those people harmed me in many ways, I still keep the memory of their good sides in my head, not forgiving their awfull actions, but celebrating what once made them special to me! 

Since remember, its not bad to hate, but to keep that hatred will only bring you the same missery that if you didin't, do you really want to suffer in vain when you could be healing honey~?

If you have someone that you trully care about, please, let them know, that ressurance is probably greately apriciated!

Thats all for today's of Ida's yappy yap, I hope you like my writing ^^ well... if you're reading this then I feel silly saying that XD

Good night my sweethearts, stay safe, take care of yourself and those around you andddd

Bau bau

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