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like the title says, i despise wich my whole heart that im a romantic person whos unluckily aroace. if youve read any of my previous blogs, you know who this is about. if u havent? ill break it down for u.
i met somebody a bit over a month ago and in that short of a timespan weve become each others everything(platonically, at least for me.) ive known for over two weeks that she has a crush on me(its honestly so cute/p how obvious it was and how she didnt realise) and she didnt figure it out until a day or two ago. ofc, knowing shes hardcore crushing doesnt change anything. were still super close and nothings awkward minus the fact that i subtly tease her abt it bc its fun :3
and being completely honest, i would absoloutely date her... if i could physically reciprocate any feelings. the problem is that im aromantic(more specifically cupioromantic), and cannot feel any romantic attraction towards anybody really. which absoloutely sucks because im a total romantic. i would spend months crafting something for somebody just because i enjoy their presense a little bit.
and ill admit-- yeah im platonically crushing on her big time. making the trope mutually crushing on each other but one is platonically crushing. and since im a minor, i find myself seriously hoping my brain develops a little bit more. i find myself hoping that ill fall for her and that we can date. nothing would even really change between us, we already act like a couple.
i just really wish that we WERE a couple. that i could love her more than just platonically. this probably sounds a bit odd but idrc. i would love any tips or advice tho.
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Jackdaw
it sounds like your relationship is in a really healthy place, and if you're able to articulate to each other your feelings and boundaries then that's great! don't feel like you need to be in a romantic relationship, that's just a societal standard (and a dumb one at that). my advice is just to do what feels right and see how the relationship develops, don't feel pressure from anyone to define yourself a certain way!
oh i dont feel forced at all!! maybe i worded it wrongly. ok hypothetically well say im not aroace, and can feel attraction. i would absoloutely have fallen in love by now and we would be dating not bc of pressures but bc i would just want to :3 being able to go around and call her my girlfriend instead of just my friend would be a dream. a very pleasant dream. its just the fact that my brain doesnt feel attraction like that that stunts it
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ahh i see yeah. i identified in the past (and am honestly still trying to figure out if this is still the case) as cupioromantic so i get how you feel
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