unpopular opinions

i have a few opinions about the things i've been noticing across the internet and in real life

if an overweight person makes a video about wanting to change their appearance and actually do something about their health, people come flocking in telling them not to because everyone is perfect and that they're beautiful. not to be that person, but isn't this like.. toxic positivity?

i would get it if someone is posting a video saying how they're insecure over their body, that's a different thing. you could say that there, but why are we trying to stop someone from improving their health? is it that bad to admit being overweight is unhealthy?

let them change their body weight if they want to, as long as they're not doing anything like unhealthy to themselves. in my opinion i find it a little annoying how we just tend to see someone focused on their health and wanting to work out as someone who is deeply insecure of their body. 

just let them work out?? if they want to change they can it's not the end of the world. 

also are we able to admit that there are some people who are unattractive when it comes to looks? like, i'm not going to rub it in someone's face. it's a rude thing to say but i don't think it should be a thing where we say that nobody is ugly. i mean i wouldn't really use ugly that's a strong word. i guess people are pretty in their own way, but that's a phrase used for personality

for me i could acknowledge someone isn't pretty, but it wouldn't matter to me. i'm not going to bully them over it or have an overreaction "EW THAT PERSON LOOKS DISGUSTING" does anyone actually react like this or is this some type of overreaction people do to be funny. seriously though i do value personality over appearance but it's not like being non pretty is something to be ashamed of like who cares

as much as this is in a gray area i do think humor is subjective. no matter what subject it is, something will always be funny to someone. i mean you can't just say "that's not funny" because there's literally no objective definition to what's funny and what's not you can just find anything funny. but i AM going to admit if you're laughing at someone getting brutally murdered that's a little messed up dude 

also, i think people should accept not everyone is going to be kind to them. not like being overly rude should be justified but nobody owes you the same respect or kindness you give to them because they did not ask for it, and you can't manage the way people act. it's not their responsibility to take care of your emotions if they hurt you because your emotions are your problem(i'm going to have things like abuse and murder be an exception to this)