<<I should be studying to my uni test but im procrastinating here.
I was thinking these days about how the people who you stay with influence about the view you have about yourself.
In school i had a group of friends (more than one), and we're very different but we hang out and had fun times when we were together but i noticed that something that was kinda like: they liked me, but if i wasnt there it wouldnt make a difference. All of them enjoyed things like "celebrities" and "go to parties" and thats nice, i dont go to parties but i talked with them about these stuff with no problem. But when i talked about the things i liked, they talked that was weird or boring and this kind of things; its not like im forcing you to like the same thing as me, but cant you listen to me once when i hear you talk about your stuff all the time?
Dont get me wrong, i dont hate them, but after a time listen your friends talk bad about the tings you like or dont listen to what you have to say, its kinda tiring. We had very diffent personallities too, so we were more like "we are friends because of a commn friend" (that in this case, was my best friend, so i stay in this group because i wanted to be with her).
I looked to the other people that liked the same things as me, and did funny and cool thing that i would love to do too and always tought "i wish i was friends with them". And until know i cant help but think that my school days could be different (for better maybe) if i would had talked to them. Nowdays, i just talk with my best friend of that old group of friends.
I was very shy in that times to and usted to hide my interests because i was afraid of the jugdment. and that didnt help me at all.
But i went over school, and entered the college. I was very afraid of dont make friends, or people dont like my personality or find me annoying, but i didnt want to stay with people who dont have nothing to do with me either. So, even i was VERY SCARED i didnt hide myself anymore and did the things that i wanted to do, talked with the people i thoght that were cool and was nice.
I meet incredible people this way and all of them was so nice, and some of them i just meet because of my interests. People who like the same things as me, people with matching personality or just fun people who liked my company and i liked theirs too. It helped so much be in this enviroment. Now,im very confortable to act the way i always wanted without worring if i am being annoying because now i have people who want to listend what i have to say.
So i realized that even if this advice its SO CLICHE (and i hate this kind of motivational phrases) its important to be confident about who you are, because if you dont, other people will want to say how you should be and this way you can miss good oportunities. I know its hard and sometimes it takes A LOT of time (even more when you are shy) but if you take the first step, good things can happen.
You know that person with a cool keychain you saw on your bustop and want to talk to them ? go for it!; You want to be friends with a person in your school? try talk to them!; Sometimes the things dont go in the way we expected but sometimes, you can make a good friendship this way. Its not so easy or fast, but any progress its better than none.
And dont be ashamed for the things you like. Put that pin in your backpack, dress in the way you want to dress, go talk to that person you want to be friends with. You will feel more confortable with yourself when youre not stressed out trying to hide the things you like just to be accepted. Some people can talk about you and say its "weird" or things like that, but so what? It makes you happy, so its important to you no matter what the others say.
So yeah,this its what i wanted to write here for now (i really have to go back to study). And i hope this helps someone.>>
*sorry if my english its bad
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Vampire_Sara☆
This advice is so good! I think everything in this text you wrote is really good. I really identified with it (much more than just being your friend) precisely because I've been in similar situations. I'm glad you have more confidence now, because honestly, you're amazing! A wonderful and interesting person who I genuinely enjoy being friends with. I want to be able to continue being your friend forever! I've always wanted this kind of friendship since childhood, and having it with you today is incredible!
You were one of the friends i meet because of my interests and help me so much !! Your friendship its what i always wanted to have, a friend to share hobbies, interests or just talk about the life in general. I love be your friend so much and i wished we could see each other more times 💗
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You are so creative and a incredible friend that i enjoy the company a lot, i hope we can see each other in the future because we have SO MANY THINGS to do togheter
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