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does anyone know how to get rid of this? its 10th of july, barely half of the whole summer, but im feeling extremely depressed over here. i dont have a lot of friends (only 3 loyal ones), whose are a miracle to be free to go out with me, ive successfully arranged a part-time job for myself, even signed myself to a camp (with one of my friends) thats gonna be in like 2 weeks. yet im still feeling just depressed this summer, i dont know if its just me. but i dont know what to do at home anymore. mostly would like to get myself go outside, but when its just by myself then i cant seem to eventually get myself to it. and this all is just disappointing. like i have passion in life for me to achieve (music) but this is just...sad.
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AgentK
go out in nature. the outdoors will make you feel unalone because you will be surrounded by miracles and life. all your problems will feel small in comparison to the vast expanses and enormous terrain features, or feel no longer important when you see on how simple life can be for the humble insect or small animal.
also, 3 loyal friends is a lot. your alternative is many fake friends. as we grow older, we have fewer opportunities to spend time together. It's normal and you'll find ways to cope and adapt.
yeah, nature (esp. forests) bring me a lot of comfort, so i fully understand what you mean. sadly i live in a bigger city, so finding some forests or a bigger nature is quite longer way lol. but last year even parks brought me that kind of comfort, so i might repeat that this year. or atleast will try to. the other problem is actually (and successfully) force myself to go outside.
and about the free time - thank you for kinda opening my eyes. i was still living in the naive hope that "maybe" the frequency of me and my friends hanging out would get better within some time. its just the fact that i see many people making memories with bigger or even smaller group of friends, meanwhile im here, alone most of the time. thank you for the help
by itsvsp4tbl00d; ; Report
most people are alone most of the time, dude. you only see and hear what people choose to share, which is usually the exciting parts. Mostpeople won't admit it (to you or to themselves) because they have to keep up the narrative/appearance that their life is some sort of movie.
by AgentK; ; Report
my point is not to invalidate your feelings, but to tell you that 1 you aren't alone and 2 things will be okay
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yeah, i understand it by now. and overall thanks a lot for all the advices. i´ll just hope that this terrible part of my life will pass as soon as possible, so i can start enjoying my life fully again, when now it seems like an impossible task. even for now, i´ll try to do even the smallest moves to cheer myself up somehow (even if it´ll be music, thrifting by myself, or just yeeting myself outside into some nature).
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are you familiar with the concept of inertia? objects resist changes in their state of motion. I think this applies a lot to emotions as well. when you are feeling down and blue like you dont have the energy to do anything, it can be really hard to muster the willpower to make that first burst of force to start motion, but once you get it done, staying out of the dumps will be a lot easier. its like getting out of bed in the morning when youre tired. if you just muster the will to jump up, you set yourself up for a good morning.
by AgentK; ; Report
this pretty sums up my situation the last few days lol. atleast ive got a name for it now. thank you for the advice, i´ll do whatever it takes to just go, and see for myself. i bet that at the end of the day i´ll be glad for even going out than if i´d just not go anywhere.
by itsvsp4tbl00d; ; Report
Try to find a body of water, if you can. Bodies of water are always very comforting to me, especially when I'm somber. In ancient times, bodies of water were seen as places where the veil between the physical and spiritual worlds were weaker (because it has a surface you can't see through and hides many lost, forgotten and secret things beneath that surface, almost like a portal to another world.) They were places where magical things entered into the physical world, especially lakes. If you find one, let me know how it made you feel.
When i really need someone to talk to. I will talk to parts of nature. Trees are very old and very wise. They've been witness to many things throughout their long lives and they are good listeners. The moon is also a good listener. She is very beautiful and gives us light to keep us safe through the dangerous night.
by AgentK; ; Report
this sounds truly comforting by just the listen of it. for me for ex. the most comfortable things about the world is fire, and ofcourse forests. like, i could stare into the fire for hours and let it just calm my mind altogether with the surroundings around it. either if i could then í´d just build myself a small cabin, or even a tree house in the forest where i could go when i feel the need to clear my head from all the shit in the world (-just like the need i am feeling now)
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good luck and stay safe
by AgentK; ; Report
same goes to you man
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