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MEN on the Internet


It's funny to me how many dudes advertise themselves on the internet as sugar daddies. Are you really? Do you think this gets your dick sucked? Does this boost your ego? 

No. Yes. and Yes.

If you're quite literally advertising yourself as an aspiring sugar daddy on the internet, especially on this site and those similar (i'm thinking the basics: Instagram, Tumblr, etc... basically non-sugar person centered sites) you are IN THE WRONG PLACE and are not to be trusted. There are sites and events for this kind of stuff... don't do it here... where there are minors... who could be pretending to be 18.

These "sugar daddies" and, in general, older men on this site (that i've witnessed thus far) have their own qualifications for who'd they like to meet: young, attractive women. Their entire friends list is JUST WOMEN... like dude... try not to be so obvious. I'm grossed out and concerned that you friend requested me when I look at your page and see that your friends list is entirely compiled of WOMEN WHO ARE TOO YOUNG FOR YOU! My mind immediately goes to some pre-/teen that is way too into certain things and/or just has naive curiosity, and may get taken advantage of and will be scarred for life by that interaction when they get older. Or never realize that interaction is inappropriate and how it will affect them in the future. - I was a pre-/teen on the internet and I had some experiences I definitely regretted, that stemmed from normal-seeming older men reaching out to me and my own naive curiosity... just don't do it... it doesn't make you cool, mature, or edgy, it just makes you cringe and traumatized.

Also its abundantly clear that a lot of people (dudes) don't look at your whole profile, especially the "Who I'd Like To Meet" section. I have very simple and direct qualifications for who I am looking to interact with on this site, yet it seems that very few people actually read that part of my profile, or they just look at the profile pic and go ADD ADD ADD ADD!!! This section is one of the first things I check to make sure I don't overstep anyone's boundaries before even thinking of messaging them or commenting on anything they post.

I feel it's an obvious form of common decency that older men do not interact with young women online in a lot of ways... but ya know... common decency and sense isn't so common, especially currently (maybe ever?).

Take Away Messages:

  • If it feels wrong, it probably is
  • Don't be fucking creepy
  • If you have to convince yourself that what you're saying/doing is okay because of technicalities and shitty comparisons, DONT FUCKING DO IT

have a nice day (ノ◕ヮ◕)ノ*:・゚✧


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morguegirl

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strongly agree with the whole "older men being interested in you, doesn't make you more mature". Had to experience that, when i was freshly 18 and very much not mentally well. I was also kinda shocked when one of my first spacehey friend request was some 40 year old dude that only followed young alt girls (most of them being minors). Kinda weird.


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That's why I dislike the idea that as soon as you're 18 then you're a fully fledged adult. 18 and 19 year olds are still teenaged, young adults. I understand wanting to see yourself as an adult and wanting others to see you that way too, but I feel that external validation is where a lot of young people can get into trouble.

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避寒 ☆ Bi-Han

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Yeah when I was on mental health forums these grown men would literally be there praying on mentally ill teenagers.... weirdos


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nastyyyy

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ZeroCore4_4

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likeee fr tho why does this make so much sense like i whish men could be some what normal and this is coming from a guy saying this and it just makes us really stupid for what we do and act all the time


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bluemoonfairy

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I lived my whole life on the internet this type of thing put me in therapy, I wish safety for anyone who's a minor on here even if you're 18 no you're not smarter than them that's exactly how you get into bad situations, the real smart thing to do is immediately block
I truly will never understand men who do that they are so desensitized from humanity that it makes my blood boil


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And grown men will look for people who are 18 because "they're legal" - doesn't make it any less creepy and wrong

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Angel。>‿‿<。

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this is so true. im a LITERAL MINOR and i always put my age in my bios and stuff and they still follow me especially on tumblr its so scary and irritating


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Boba

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this is such the "sugar daddies that lip sync to lana del rey on tiktok KNOWING damn well that audience are they targeting


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I have not seen this! That's crazyy

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Petrifiedbunny

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As a person who has seen the effects old men have on young girls. I hate that people blame those girls. Teens and people who aren't full fledged adults (over 18) are dumb as hell and can be manipulated by older men. Men on the internet are so gross I hate it


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austin

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Men will rise back from our ancestors.


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what do you meean?

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we will build back better.

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I'm all for new and improved men in the world

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jae

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this is so real im happy someone brought more awareness to it:)


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Blu

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Who puts sugar daddies on spacehey???


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A bunchh of horny dudes sadly

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creeps are everywhere :/

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incels w/ 1 brain cell

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jaque

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What I'm saying. A few years ago i went through a bit and had myself put out in Tumblr. I did hell lotta shit tbh and became an easy target for these middle aged white dudes who did the whole "sugar daddy" thing. All of them were broke divorcees talking about "flying you in" just to get videos of you like sir how long has it been since you are something except frozen pizza for lunch?


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Giygas

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Saying you're a sugar daddy on spacehey is like saying you're the manager at a fast food joint...and not mcdonalds either, like fuckin BURGER KING or some shit. Like okay bro.


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this is hilarious oml

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Unpopular opinion, but Burger King is better than McDonald's.

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Unpopular opinion, but Burger King is better than McDonald's.

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dude I stg Burger King changed their fries to be more like McDonalds' and it hurt me on a personal level

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I don't eat at fast food joints so I wouldn't know. I find local small businesses to have the best fries all around.

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BrownZombie

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word. i really hope i dont come off as a weirdo lmao i just wanna talk ro random people :)


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i mean as long as you don't add only women, i dunno why ppl would think u r a weirdo lol /gen

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uncleonion♪

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im a guy and a minor and back when i used to have a more 'feminine'-looking (as they say) layout i used to get strange friend requests from older men... the most memorable was like 54

even though i get less friend requests from adult men in particular these days since ive changed it i still have a noticeable amount of adults seeking me out and trying to add me... though its mostly adult women and nonbinary people that are like 5 - 8 years older than me


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pocono

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im a male minor but i've seen some of ts too. like you can just tell some old ass mfs are just on here to be creepy towards people who are barly legal or are minors.


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steviegrayfae

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So true! I've gotten a few of those friend requests and immediately clocked them. But seriously what do they think they're doing??


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fr like do you realize how embarrassing, shameful, and cringey this is? Or do you just not care?

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GOAT

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i rly dont understand kinkmaxxing on a social site that we co-inhabit with LITERAL CHILDREN

like do these ppl not even think for a second bout the ramifications of their actions?? :O

or is their moral compass so skewed that they just don't CARE what they're doing

(also why cant ppl be sweet elder goats and post silly stuff like me ughhh)

xoxo


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this is what ive been asking myself for so long!

we need more elder goats to set precedents!!! glad you're here my guy

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also love your use of "cohabitation" - right on the money

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