surprise graduation party

so my mom likes planning little parties at her house and i was informed the day before the party that it would be my graduation party. 

for context, i graduated in may and i'd been thinking about what i wanted to do for my graduation party. my mother's hobby is party planning (baby showers, bday parties, wedding receptions, etc) and she forces us (her children) to work as her assistants. not only that, but she tends to reuse the same old millennial pinterest decorations for every single even she hosts. the same old hot glued rhinestones, beige balloons, fake walmart flower arrangements, dollar general table covers. always pink roses and polkadots. i'm sure it's a lot of people's style but it certainly isn't mine. it's too sanitary for my taste. 

when my mom asked me last month what i wanted, i told it to her straight. I said i didn't want a party at home and i didn't want her to host anything. i told her that i wanted to watch a movie, play laser tag, play paintball with my friends, or go to the arcade. something very simple but fun. no room for her to misinterpret what i said. so why am i waking up the very same photos i asked my mother to delete of me years ago blasted on a giant canvas, with pink and white roses decorating the yard and polkadot paper plates? 

i know it might seem really ungrateful of me to be upset about having a graduation party, but i specifically told everyone i knew NOT to do something, and she took it upon herself to do exactly that. not only that, she only invited all of HER OWN adult friends. she didn't even care to try to invite any of my own cousins and friends behind my back, so now i have to sit in the sun for 5 hours straight wearing the strapless dress my mother forced me to put on, entertaining her adult friends at a party i didn't want.