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does anyone else feel like they dont have any true friends? or in general anyone to truly talk to? ever since summer started, i havent had any 'friend' reach out and ask to hangout or talk.
its always me who has to start the conversation first or get the point where im begging them to go out or do anything... this may come off a bit clingy, but some people are literally so fake, even right in your face. for example, i'd always ask this person to go somewhere but they always reply with "oh sorry..im busy" which is totally fine. what kind of pisses me off is that literally a few days later they can post how they're hanging out with someone else. how does that make sense? or another example, i was trying to make some plans for june after finishing our exams withΒ this girl (our exams were at the start of june & lasted a week and a bit) she would always say that "it's exam season" "oh i cant im trying to study" totally understandable, i let her rest & everything. its now july, tried to reach out to her since we're all practically free now, she just kind of tried to brush me off or again trying to bring up some random excuse.
i got tired of it at one point and realised that no one truly cares. it sucks that you always try to give your best to some people yet receive nothing back. some say that maybe you shouldn't expect too much from others, well i agree, but when it gets to this point where you're practically begging for at least a text or some notification? it kinda hurts but at least you realize who cares about you
p.s:LOL sorry if this came off a bit annoying, this has just been on my mind for some time. i've seen a tiktok kind of similar to this 'problem' i have, i couldn't agree more with what the creator said, i guess it's pretty much the same for others :-//
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Mity-mindymary
I've been trying to make friends on the internet for days, Discord, Tik Tok and even Tumblr
Liliana
I hate the fact how we're all on social media, but no one is being social?? It just defeats the point
abood
Exactly how ive been feeling. Ive always been in a trio and they always ditch me and when i invite them they never come with no notice or nothing and it came to the point where i js had enough for how they treated me and did to me bc they could always go to places together but if i invited them it was a problem i was so sick of it and dropped them. The ending of that friendship was harsh and boy do i want to blog abt it lmao but in anyways i had real friends in front of me that i js never noticed. You will find somebodyyyy trust mee!!
im sorry to hear that happend, i've been in a similar position before. i had the biggest fight with one of my childhood friends and sadly we don't talk anymore
but looking back it was probably for the best since her attitude and personality had completly changed... anyway, i really appreciate your comment! im also sure there will be better people in the future
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abood
Exactly how ive been feeling. Ive always been in a trio and they always ditch me and when i invite them they never come with no notice or nothing and it came to the point where i js had enough for how they treated me and did to me bc they could always go to places together but if i invited them it was a problem i was so sick of it and dropped them. The ending of that friendship was harsh and boy do i want to blog abt it lmao but in anyways i had real friends in front of me that i js never noticed. You will find somebodyyyy trust mee!!
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I totally feel you, i dont have any friends that i talk to alot, but im happy, i seriously suggest taking a break from texting anyone and focus on yourself, ONLY if your in the good mental mind space and or not suicidal, sometimes friends are a life line
i've been contemplaining about just giving up on trying to reach out to people, but at the same time as you said i should be in a good mental state first
but thank you for your kind words!
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DarkLordPinkSavage
The internet is such a strange place. Only on the internet can you tell thousands of people that you're lonely.
kinda ironic
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slashzzz
With the development of internet technologies, people have become less and less social, showing more and more skepticism towards acquaintances and new friendships. Unfortunately, many will never show friendly interest in anyone other than their "main friend"
so true, unfortunately people don't care so much about others now or as you said, they could care only about their 'main friends'...what i mean is that some people became so self-centred these days mostly because of social media or other cases, but they could go on with their life peacefully without you being in theirs, meanwhile you're trying to reach out to them and make plans. the same people that wouldn't even spit on you if you were on fire, yet try to act friendly whenever you're face to face with eachother
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Melli
This literally speaks to my soul. I'm trying to get rid of it by using social media but it doesn't help in the slightest
I want someone or a few who know me deep down. Not even my older cousins seem to try to reach out. It has always been me first.
im sorry to hear that, sadly as i grow older i start realizing that people don't care about others that much anymore. no one bothers to at least check in once in a while, you give your best to the ones around you and still don't receive anything in return
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mayonaise
absolutely right and it gets to a point where you turn into a people pleaser because youre just begging for that attention and need so bad that youd almost do anything for them and βneglectβ yourself without even realising. ive been into a similar phase and i am currently facing it again right now but the fact here is that i am fully aware and i refuse to believe that i am like this. sucks ass dude but dont give up there are millions different doors that are accessible in different ways
thank you so much! i hope everything's gonna be alright for you and im sorry to hear that. unfortunately the best people change overtime but im sure there will be better people waiting for you in the future, you really don't deserve any sort of neglect from those people
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Totally understand and feel you. Is it discouraging as hell? Absolutely, I struggle with the same thing with some people who I consider to be my friends. But does it signify that you have to give up entirely from finding people out there who will put in the same time and effort into being as good a friend to you as you are to them? That's also true as well, as I have found some of my greatest and closest friends, by letting go of some of those friends who couldn't spare me any time of day, or keeping a safe distance from them as to not continue to hurt myself in that constant loop of that one-sided feeling.
However, and it is a relatively hard reality to live with, people change for both better and for worse, however we cannot dictate when or how they change, we can only change ourselves. What I mean by this is, you're not annoying and clingy for caring about your friends and wanting to talk to them (that is quite literally the whole point of having friends), and given I don't know you or how/what your relationship was with the person/people you are referring to, I can only give a pretty generalized response based off similar experiences I've had:
- You're a good friend for caring about your friend and wanting to spend time with them, wanting to be there for them, and putting effort into fostering a sense of connection. It's so frustrating to see it not be received as you'd like (or received at all), and as a good friend (like you!), talk this out with them. This unwanted and unappreciated sentiment is not one bit healthy and will only continue to grow and become grounds for resentment or other negativity towards your friend(s), if you are not bringing it up. Whether it be a conscious decision made by them or not, is not up to you to decode and figure out because it should be made clear to you by the other person through their actions and attitude towards you as a the "friend" they claim to be. You'd obviously have to prepare to maybe hear something you may not expect to come from a "friend" and change may not immediately ensue, but you can at least rest easy knowing YOU tried doing something about it while they maybe didn't. As for finding other friends? I'm sure you'll find likeminded people with similar interests to you that will put in the same effort you are putting in. Nobody is meant to be alone, just keep looking and you'll find them eventually.
Thank you so much, you said everything so well, it kind of opened my eyes a bit to understand the current situation from another point of view hahah..
I'll definetly have to brace myself to see how they'd respond if I actually confront them about this, but once again thank you for your response, it made me feel a bit at ease and now that I think about it, it's not worth it to stress about this so much... people come and go sadly :,)
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ivlin
Yeah I've noticed it too, I haven't had a friend in years, all the people I talk to is my family, it's at the point I don't even try anymore.