okay, so for context,
i am 14 and up until now i had assumed i was aromantic because i hadn't experienced any attraction to people.
unfortunately for me, puberty hit like a train last week, and i had the dawning realization that i'm in love with a close friend of mine
BUT, here comes the conflict:
that friend is on the aromantic spectrum and doesn't understand the concept of romance at all
so obviously, the crush is irrational. yet i still yearn. could i receive any tips on getting over her?
i'd like to remain friends with her, but i have no clue how to get past this (literally just receiving a text message from her gives me butterflies, it's embarrassingly bad).
it feels odd posting this publicly, especially on spacehey out of all places, but i'm too awkward to ask for help from my friends since they know her as well.
(if you saw a post like this earlier but much cornier, no, you didn't.)

my first crush... my aromantic friend.
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Someone Supposedly
I'm on the aromantic spectrum myself, so my advice is mostly based on what I would personally think is the least awkward approach from that point of view.
Basically, I wouldn't be afraid to be honest if you are absolutely struggling to keep these feelings inside. Just reassure her that there's absolutely no pressure to pursue any kind of romantic relationship, it won't interfere with how the friendship usually functions, and that it will pass eventually. I'd say a common fear for people like us isn't that our friends will develop crushes on us, but that they won't respect our identities when they do. Of course, every situation is different, so always take this advice with a grain of salt! Good luck
Miyukii
ah I’ve been in a similar position to you before, how I got over it? I confessed to her, obviously she rejected me but it put my mind at ease knowing I could get over her, obviously it might not be the case in your situation as it might affect your friendship ( me and the girl I confessed to are still close friends) , but alas if you need anymore help my dms are open :)
unfortunately, i think that method would definitely complicate the friendship or just make it quite awkward, but i appreciate your reply nonetheless! it's nice to at least know that there's others who have been in my situation as well lol
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