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this is jst some general life advice coming from a fellow Awkward Weird Teen™. obviously im not the best person ever, in fact i have a lot of flaws, but i want to help people to make their life better.
to not make this boring af, i'll use some agressive language lol so this is half jokingly but still it's good advice imo 🙏
- get a fuckin personality
whenever i see someone whose whole aesthetic, music taste, interests, etc are just a copy paste of some internet subculture, the first impression i have is "this person has no real personality, therefore isn't interesting". yea ik it might sound harsh and snobby, but sometimes you need to be hit in the face with reality and realize that clout and acceptance don't matter when they're directed at a fake persona you're cosplaying as. and not jst with aesthetics, people with a strong personality are usually the most interesting to meet, those who know what matters to them and don't let the crowd affect their choices. im not saying you have to bitchface at everyone you don't know lol just don't be desperate to talk to people who are clearly not worth your time.
by spending ur time focusing more on urself and not others you will make a huge improvement trust me bro🙏
- get off 4chan and the hub
if your only way to be funny is by saying you want trans people to kill themselves and joke abt 9/11 then im sorry you aren't worth anyone's time at all, get a fuckin life outside weird ahh forums. this just makes me think you spend too much time thinking abt things that piss you off and will always be defensive and in a bad mood. also "friend"groups that rely on this type of communication aren't genuine at all lol you will just feel pressured to be the most outrageous and won't form any meaningful bond.
also with porn, it's way too normalized and having a porn addiction ain't cool. the porn thing in fact affects your ability to actually get and interact with a partner cause it jst distorts your perception of reality. bro if you're horny go wack it to some fake scenario or some shit not with those fake ahh videos and pics.
- don't pay attention to unnecessary drama
if someone's constantly trying to piss you off by doing shit like posting targeted things on social media, starting rumors, etc, best you can do is ignore them cause they'll end up ridiculing themselves in public lol. i won't even judge you over what you must have done to get there cause that person doesn't care if youre actually a shitty person or not they jst want to drag you on the floor, and if you clap back at them they'll just play the victim so it's not worth it.
whenever i see someone on social media post targeted shit all i can think is "wow this person seems shitty, they just want to be seen as the good one no matter what it takes" so yea it is embarrassing. best you can do is block and ignore, but if it gets to a more serious situation (cyberbullying, threats, etc) honestly tell someone, NEVER take justice by your own hand cause they'll make you seem like the bad one. tell a friend, parent, teacher, etc.
- trust your gut
and you might ask "but alex what gives you THE bad vibe??". well, it's usually people who will tell you about how they're "mentally unstable" and "never treated right" when first talking to them. we all have our problems but you're just gonna give a bad impression if that's the 1st thing you want people to know abt you, it seems like you just want them to feel bad for you. everyone who was like this always ended up being super manipulative by playing the victim so def watch out for that. remember that even if someone's genuinely mentally ill, that doesn't mean you have to look after them like a baby if they're not even your friend.
if someone says they have no friends, there is always a reason. trust me. no exceptions. i fell to this wayyy too many times lol it's actually embarrassing from me.
guys i hope all this yapping was helpful🙏 srry if it's too long lol
this is how i feel rn btw
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very sigma
Andy SuperCute
this blog is so real…i used to have a friend who would get all of their opinions and personality off tiktok and would always talk abt hating someone or something and always make self deprecating comments and it was so draining trying to keep up
ashton
the point about friend groups built off gossip and offensive jokes is SO REAL.
I've found so many friend groups that are built off that instead of genuine conservation and shared interest crash and burn. Or just aren't fulfilling to me at least.
I will loose my mind if I overhear some stupid piece of gossip or drama, built up only because someone just needs a reason to justify they dislike for a person or a stupid take that considers zero nuance. It's always the same parroted talking points and beliefs and the same personality being poorly mimicked.
The people I've found most genuine have little to no social media, GENUINE interests (not just something they like the aesthetic of), and don't gossip. Those are the people who are easiest and nicest to be around
merel extraterrestrial :P
Common alex w
I will be gaining aura after reading this 👍
♡Sam♡
"get a fucking personality" had be giggling for like a solid min XD
winged.addictXxx
im going into sophmore year, hope this helps, i'll update on like... the second month
Max!
thanks twin ill get all the huzz with this🙏🙏
uncleonion♪
the things listed under "get off 4chan" are so right... ive never even been on the site but FUCK if i havent had that experience of defining myself off my edginess id be darned...
as someone thats went through this before many people that overuse and define themselves on their mean-spirited shock humor, whether its directed to themselves or others, often have no idea how to express emotions in a healthy way and often fear genuine vulnerability and so they decide to express their feelings in ways that are crude and vulgar and possibly hurtful because they are intimidated by actually getting to the root of the problem
after they get over it they also have to deal with questioning and changing a lot of things about both themselves and their environments which is also intimidating because many friend groups that these types of people are in either enable their behavior or flat-out encourage it... they have to come to the realization that they are defining themselves and their outlook in life in the worst and most emotionally exhausting way possible... and then to take measures on how to grow from there and stop letting that outlook devour them
something that tends to stop a lot of outsiders from helping these people is the fact that they pretend to have this dgaf-type way of carrying themselves it almost feels like they are trying to *compensate* for how unhappy they are with themselves and also the fact that what they sayis easily shrugged off by both the person and others as a joke... and sometimes thats the seed it starts out as, a joke... but then it grows and becomes more intense until it becomes thinly veiled self-hatred and hatred for the people around them
if you, the reader of this comment, have ever been sucked into these kinds of spaces or have felt this mindset strengthen its hold on you... please reach out for some kind of help because if you glorify and romanticize your horrible thoughts about yourself and others around you it will eventually turn into something much more destructive and unhealthy that will fuck you and the ones you love up
julia:3
im trying to get off tiktok right now cause its kinda making me boring. Theres also just a lot of negativity on there and it feels like no ones allowed to have their own opinions anymore. Its exhausting.
do it you wont regret it 🙏 i felt the same abt reddit
although it's actually useful for some things and there are amazing communities that i love being part of, tbh the positive things weren't worth all the toxicity, creepy dms and fascist propaganda i was seeing. one day i asked myself why tf i was wasting hours in that shithole that i didn't eve like so i stopped. i still have the app downloaded but don't interact anymore and just use it on occasion to ask questions or learn abt bands that i see nowhere else
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Princess Fifi
first point is SO REAL. I feel that when (most)people hear this, they think purely of "don't follow trends!"(which like, follow them if you want! that's why they're trends), and not actual core parts of their personalities like their beliefs or values. I'm scared that us young gens are starting to grow less opinionated, but PLEASE care about things! To whoever reads this, on top of these tips, don't just think hmmm, should I buy a labubu or how should I style myself but ask yourself, what causes do you support? what values do I believe in?
☆∼ oyasu
i think fomo is a very big part of this "having no personality" tbh like you'll want to do everything other people want so you become like them when you're actually missing out on who you really are,, don't fall for ts yall
シドちゃん ☆ ♪ #1 gakupo fan!!
as one of spacehey's resident old farts™, i cosign all of this advice
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I can’t read this I need subway surfers clips for me to focus
FR man, me too
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ViOwlette ˚ʚ♡ɞ˚
ur mad right like actually didnt miss..
like to me this is basic obvious stuff as a 16 yr old but maybe like 3-4 years ago i felt like i was too cool for stuff like this
i feel like this is more helpful for younger teens
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agreed!
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TheStrangestOfMen
Alr dude ill trust you ima try this (will update later)
im glad to help 🙏
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