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Is it just me, or do relationships feel superficial these days? Idk if it's because of me living in a village smushed between two small (very cracky) cities in germany or because I'm autistic and don't understand certain things, but the relationships I witnessed, or was in, end over the smallest things/the dumbest things (not counting in clearly toxic or abusive things), or people hopping from partner to partner.
Some real life examples I have witnessed/experienced:
-Breaking up over a haircut.
-Breaking up because the other person didn't work through their mental health/trauma 'fast enough'.
-Breaking up because the other person is ace. Knowing about it and then being disappointed/unsatisfied that they didn't want sex.
-Arguing and then breaking up because of a phone background.
Like, I really don't understand why people just can't talk it out with issues that could be dealt with clear communication (ik talking with a partner and setting boundaries can be hard, especially when you have past related trauma) and rather break up than work on/through it.
(If the writing doesn't make sense, keep in mind English isn't my first language. If I misunderstood (?) some things, please correct me, and if someone can explain why my examples could be seen as reasonable or something, my autistic ass would appreciate it.)
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frutiger era 🌍🐠🪼🫧🪀
It’s not you, it’s the world. I feel the very same and it shocks me. There are no deep and meaningful relationships nowadays:( you may appreciate or be mutuals with people for a decade or so, and then they just get rid of you…horrifying. Things have no worth, care and empathy has no worth :(((
Possum
I understand exactly what you mean, but it does surprise me. I was under the impression that this was largely an American culture issue, but unfortunately, it appears that it's not. A lot of people these days are afraid to form deeper connections for some reason, and also lack patience as well. Most of those types of people want all the glory of a relationship but don't want to work through the bad moments that a relationship entails, so it's easier to kill everything off than to work through it I suppose. Had an ex like that.
Where I live it's very shallow like you described, and looking online just makes a decent chunk of folks look a lot bigger. There's more people like you and I out there but sometimes it feels like it's super rare. Who knows, may just be a 'young adults' thing tbh.