Hey hey, thanks for reading this!

First of all, I did not make this post to shit on my IRLS or just to complain. I wanna know if anyone else at all is experiencing this. 

Not because I’m not trying, or because I’m antisocial or whatever but because the market just sucks. a lot of people already have theirfriend group locked in since childhood, and they treat new people like side characters. It’s hard to break in without feeling like a tagalong or an afterthought.

And when people are looking for new friends, it’s often for all the wrong reasons. They want drama. They want attention. They traumadump on you before you even know their last name. Or worse, they just… suck as a person. Rude, unreliable, full of red flags, or the kind of people who think being “edgy” is a personality trait. Like, a lot of people are genuinely still homophobic in 2025???  that's just crazy to me 

is it too much to ask to just have a friend that replies within the same day that I text them with something other than "alright" or "okay" and also texts first sometimes?

Sometimes it feels like everyone decent is taken, and everyone available is a mess. And the internet doesn’t help either like every online platform gets flooded with people too young to relate to, or too chronically online to act like humans anymore. that's another thing.. Everyone is either 12 or way too old for me. 

So yeah. If you’re also trying to find good IRLs and it’s just not working: I see you. You’re not alone. And I hope one day we both get the group chat we deserve.