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It's late at night and I'm overthinking about love again, the way I always do when the world gets quiet. It's been a while since I wrote here, but I can't shake this feeling that modern love has forgotten something important.
There was a time when people fought to stay. They wrote letters, showed up at doorsteps, called until their voices went hoarse. Arguments weren’t the end, just another part of learning how to love each other better. But now, it feels like the smallest conflict makes people run.
In today's world, it's easier to block, ghost, or move on to someone new. There’s no patience for messy conversations, no room for uncomfortable honesty. We convince ourselves it's healthier to leave, rather than work through the storm. Maybe sometimes it is, but often it’s just fear disguised as self preservation.
We’ve forgotten how to stay and fix things. How to listen when it hurts, to swallow pride, to say sorry without conditions. Relationships aren’t built on the easy days alone, but on the hard ones too, the nights you choose to stay even when everything in you wants to run.
Love isn’t perfect, but it’s worth the fight. Maybe it's time we remember that, and bring back the art of fighting to stay.
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Rory :3
People love the flirting and getting to know each other part of the relationship, but as soon as it comes to opening up and being vulnerable suddenly the other person isnt interested anymore or feels like this isnt working out or whatever other reasoning they may use. It hurts a lot. Something that ive also noticed is that people will suddenly get bored when theyre with the same person for too long and will either abruptly end the relationship or cheat. I know that sounds crazy but ive seen it a lot with other people in my age demographic and i genuinely do not understand it. it is so strange.
I totally get what you're saying, it’s honestly heartbreaking how often that happens now. People love the thrill at the beginning, but the moment things get real or require emotional effort, they check out. It’s like vulnerability makes them uncomfortable, or they confuse comfort with boredom. And yeah, it sucks seeing people cheat or leave just because the “newness” faded. Real connection takes work, patience, and presence, things not everyone’s ready for yet. But that doesn’t mean it’s all hopeless. There are people who still crave something real. It’s just harder to find in a world that keeps rushing past the good stuff.
by twinklelore; ; Report
𝓵𝓪𝓷𝓪
This exactly. To quote literally everyone on the internet, social media killed romance.
AGREEDDD
by Rory :3; ; Report
Totally get what you mean. Social media gave us endless options, but somewhere along the way, it made people more disposable too. Real connection takes time and unfortunately, that doesn’t trend as fast as instant gratification does
by twinklelore; ; Report
kiko!
people also start confusing "staying through the bad" with staying in toxic situations, aka situationships. some people rather suffer through a crappy partner then work on themselves and find someone who actually love them in the way that they want. they make up silly rules and labeling everything. it's lustful and not actually anything of substance either.
love is so shattered in general.
You're so right and I completely agree. There’s a big difference between staying in love that’s worth fighting for and staying in something that’s only causing harm. Fighting to stay should never mean losing yourself. Real love should feel safe, not like a constant struggle. I guess the real challenge is knowing when it’s love and when it’s just fear of being alone
by twinklelore; ; Report
it's the fear of being alone definitely. especially in the high school demographic. people see other people in relationships and feel like they NEED to have it. they NEED to be in a relationship. they'll get with the closest person that breathed in their direction and call it love. then they wonder why they get heartbroken so easily, they're not letting themselves find someone who won't leave them in the end.
I found myself in that situation. I almost got with a guy who was constantly horny and lusting over me because I felt like I needed to be with someone and he was the closest guy I had. I tried to force crushes on people who liked me because I wanted to have love like in the movies. but they wouldn't have treated me like I wanted to. I almost realized it too late.
by kiko!; ; Report
Thank you for sharing that so openly, it takes a lot of self-awareness to recognize those patterns in ourselves. You’re absolutely right about how the pressure to be in a relationship, especially when we’re still figuring ourselves out, can blur the lines between love and just wanting not to be alone. What you said about trying to force crushes or settling for whoever is around really hits deep, so many people do it without even realizing it’s not real connection, just fear dressed up as affection. And the worst part is, it leaves us emptier than before, because deep down we know it’s not the kind of love we deserve. I think part of growing up is learning that love isn't meant to be rushed or forced, it's meant to be built slowly with mutual care, respect, and presence. And sometimes, the strongest thing we can do is wait. Wait for the kind of love that makes us feel safe, seen, and chosen, not out of convenience, but out of something real. You almost realizing it too late means you did realize it, and that awareness is already a win. It means you’re one step closer to the kind of love that won’t make you question your worth.
by twinklelore; ; Report
thank you, I hope so. everyone has a partner and it's just like, ugh you no you gotta wait! you're going to be gone in 2 years, calm down, it's not gonna last!. especially since I wanna date to marry. these highschoolers don't care about that, they just want a body smh
16 years single and proud!
by kiko!; ; Report
Arden
I'm in a pretty bad place right now with love and I think those past relationships were all made for me it feels like my first boyfriend is getting revenge on me bc I got with my first girlfriend and it's sad but I'm looking for somebody on here hopefully it works
I'm really sorry you're in that space right now, love can feel cruel when the past still lingers like a ghost, making you question if you’ll ever feel something pure again. But the truth is, not every connection is meant to hurt; some are meant to heal. What you went through doesn’t define what you deserve. You’re allowed to hope for something real, something patient and soft, someone who sees the mess and stays anyway. I truly believe the right kind of love, the one that fights, listens, and grows, still exists. Don’t lose faith in that.
by twinklelore; ; Report
☆ultra valiance☆
i really appreciate this, like honestly because im someone who does all of those things i find it near impossible to even maintain a friendship nowadays because no one has any patience for me even though i had all for them. for instance i was talking to this one girl and we had been talking for a week or so, she would text me constantly message me and i couldnt reply because i was in exams. then she messaged me like we were breaking up when we had hardly met each other.
its not just unreciprocated affection now its like no one has the attention span for a single conversation, then if the conversation does happen then its like they forget it ever happened and do the bad thing again. i really thought i was just to intense for people then i grew up more and realized that maybe im just to enthusastic about explaining things and it takes to long for others to listen. its like i speak and everyone thinks they know what i said while only hearing half of it.
so uh tldr: i think the problem is people just dont have enough patience for each other anymore no matter the relationship.
I totally get what you mean, and you’re not alone in feeling this way. People really do seem to have less patience these days, like they’re always looking for the next thing instead of actually sitting with someone and understanding them fully. It’s not about you being too much, it’s about others not knowing how to handle real depth. Keep being you. The right people will appreciate how much you care and how deeply you listen. That kind of patience and presence is rare, and it matters
by twinklelore; ; Report
amazing
by dondondoon; ; Report
Rezreset
Yeah, I tried. My ex would rather just keep searching for Gigachad though.
That sucks, honestly. You did your best, and it’s their loss.
by twinklelore; ; Report
AJT
I've been reading through your blog posts and it is honestly wonderful to see people with similar beliefs when it comes to this kind of stuff. It gives me hope that there are good people out there, so thank you for what you do :D
Thank you so much for your kind words, it truly means a lot. I think we all need reminders that there are others who still believe in the power of patience, honesty, and real connection in a world that often moves too fast. Your hope is exactly why I keep writing. I’m glad my words resonated with you, and I hope you keep holding onto that belief, because people like you make this world a softer, more genuine place
by twinklelore; ; Report
Den
honestly I agree, in this world full of summer flings we forget how to create meaningful connections with people. we get convinced by TikTok and YouTube that every slight concern is an early redflag and while yes it is important to identify warning signs we don't even rule out other possibilities first.
we take distance as rejection instead of considering if the possibility that the other person is upset and honestly it hurts to see that chivalry is dead to most people.
Thank you for sharing this, it resonates so much. You're absolutely right, we've become quick to label every flaw as a red flag, forgetting that people are messy, imperfect, and worth understanding. It's sad how distance and silence are often taken as rejection rather than moments of hurt or confusion. In a world obsessed with self protection, we've lost the patience and courage to hold space for each other, to wait, to try again. I think we need to learn how to stay, how to be gentle with someone even when it's hard, and how to remember that real love isn't always simple or polished, it requires presence, forgiveness, and time.
by twinklelore; ; Report